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My partner has a fun little game he plays with me at the grocery store or Target: he sneaks up behind me and whispers, “Well, hello there,” as if he doesn’t know me at all.
When he first did this two years ago, shortly after we started dating, I thought it was just the excitement of a new relationship that was getting to me. But here we are, and it still turns me on just as much as it did the first time. This playful interaction has encouraged me to explore role play in the bedroom—something I hadn’t considered before.
Let’s be honest: being intimate with the same person for a long time can start to feel a bit monotonous. It’s perfectly okay to admit that and to seek out more excitement in your sexual experiences. After all, variety is the spice of life. Just like we don’t eat the same meal every day, our bodies desire different feelings and sensations. Role play is a fantastic way to introduce that variety with your partner. I understand that the thought of it can make some of us cringe—that’s a normal reaction. Many of us feel awkward hearing our voices in videos, let alone acting out a scenario where we pretend to be someone else while enticing our partners.
To help ease into role play, I reached out to a few sex experts who provided their insights on how to spice things up. Gigi Engle, a certified sex coach and author, suggests fully immersing yourself in the character. “It’s almost like creating your own adult film. In fact, pretending to be in a porn scenario could be a form of role play.”
What a clever idea! You could watch a scene from an adult film and then act it out together. There’s no need to record it, but if you do, that could ignite even more passion in your relationship. Engle describes it as a “choose your own adventure” experience, allowing you to break away from the usual routine. “You can embody anyone, and do anything you desire,” she adds. Treating role play as a new game you’re both learning can be exciting and help kick things off.
Remember, there are no strict rules here. “As long as everyone is safe and respectful to those involved,” Engle reassures. Role play doesn’t have to be elaborate with costumes and fancy lighting. You can keep it simple, like pretending to be a different character and engaging in some playful banter.
However, if you’re inclined toward more intricate scenarios, now’s the perfect time to bring out some fun props or accessories. For instance, if you want to play out a college student/professor fantasy, you could shop for a trendy outfit and some fake glasses for your partner.
I also spoke with Sarah Blake, a relationship therapist who runs Couples Candy, a platform designed to provide couples with tips for healthy relationships. She recommends starting with one of my favorite approaches to role play—acting like strangers meeting for the first time. Here’s how you can do it:
- Plan a date night where you both agree on a time and place to meet.
- One of you arrives early, dressed in a way that contrasts sharply with your usual style.
- When the other arrives, you both pretend to be unfamiliar with each other.
- Start flirting, buy each other drinks, and before long, you’ll be engrossed in this playful game—even if you feel a bit awkward initially.
Even if things don’t unfold as planned and you end up laughing at yourselves, this shared experience can deepen your connection and create a funny story to tell. The best-case scenario is that you discover a new way to keep things exciting in the bedroom, just by stepping into different roles for a few minutes or longer.
If you’re interested in trying this but aren’t sure how to approach your partner about it, consider sharing this article with them. Or next time you’re in a public space together, surprise them by pretending you don’t know them. You might be pleasantly surprised by how enjoyable and thrilling role-playing can be.
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In summary, role play can add excitement and variety to your intimate life. Whether you choose to keep it simple or dive into elaborate scenarios, the key is to have fun and explore new dimensions of your relationship.