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When I think of the “birds and the bees” talk between parents and their children, I can’t help but picture scenes from classic eighties films. Typically, it involves a father awkwardly entering his teenage son’s room for a serious discussion, only to leave both parties feeling uncomfortable and uninformed.
It’s clear that taking cues from outdated movies isn’t the best idea. However, many parents find it challenging to initiate conversations about sex and sexuality with their kids. They often feel unsure about where to start or how to approach the subject.
To provide some guidance, we spoke with Mia Johnson, a sexual health counselor and medical advisor, who shared valuable insights on how to handle these sometimes uncomfortable discussions.
There’s No One-Size-Fits-All Approach
Contrary to the impression given by those movies, discussions about sex and bodies should begin well before your child turns sixteen. According to Mia, these conversations can start from the time your child is born. This includes everything from the language used during diaper changes to interactions that teach body safety and boundaries. For younger children, start with topics like bodily functions and how bodies work.
Mia emphasizes the importance of teaching kids about their individuality and using the correct names for their body parts. Understanding that their genitals are just another aspect of their bodies is crucial.
Be Ready for Questions
As a parent, it’s essential to educate yourself about sex and anatomy. Mia points out that many adults lack a complete understanding of anatomy themselves. It’s perfectly fine to admit when you don’t know something and suggest looking it up together. Initiate conversations by asking what your child already knows, which gives insight into their understanding and allows you to gauge where to begin.
Mia recommends the book “Sex Is A Funny Word,” a comic aimed at 8-12-year-olds, which is also useful for adults.
Avoid Fabricating Stories
Mia advises against telling kids that babies come from storks or cabbage patches. While children may be ready for information at different times, honesty is key. Make it engaging and relatable. For example, when explaining how babies are born, Mia describes the process as involving a “special tunnel” called the vagina. She also encourages discussions about adoption, surrogacy, and other ways children come into families.
As children grow and inquire more about how babies are made, begin with the idea that when two people love each other, a part of each comes together. Mia also highlights the importance of using inclusive language, referring to those who can create sperm and eggs rather than adhering to a binary perspective.
Teach Consent from the Start
Mia emphasizes that conversations about consent are critical. Letting children know they can refuse hugs from relatives or say “no” during play is foundational for their ability to assert themselves later in life. This lays the groundwork for confident communication as they interact with classmates and peers.
Unfortunately, societal norms often overlook the importance of consent in casual interactions, but Mia insists that children must learn to use their voice to set boundaries early on.
Don’t Wait for Them to Ask
Mia suggests broaching the topic of sex around ages 9 or 10 without making it uncomfortable. Research shows that discussing sex and sexuality with kids can delay their first sexual experiences, leading to more positive and consensual encounters.
In addition to discussing consent, it’s beneficial to talk about pleasure. Relate discussions of sex to food preferences—just as we have likes and dislikes in food, the same applies to attraction and sensations related to sex.
It’s natural for parents to feel uncomfortable; however, Mia encourages them to confront their feelings head-on. Addressing discomfort allows for open conversations that can help children grow without shame regarding their bodies or sexuality.
Ultimately, the goal is to nurture children who can thrive, find joy, and engage in healthy, supportive relationships.
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Summary
Discussing sex and pleasure with children doesn’t have to be uncomfortable. Start conversations early, be honest, and engage in ongoing discussions. Teaching consent is crucial, and parents should prepare for their children’s questions. It’s important to create a safe space for kids to learn about their bodies and relationships, ultimately fostering healthy attitudes toward sexuality.