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On March 25, New Zealand’s legislature passed a law providing women and their partners with three days of paid leave following a miscarriage or stillbirth. This announcement was celebrated across major news platforms, signaling a vital acknowledgment that pregnancy loss is a reality that necessitates time for healing, both physically and emotionally. Parliament member Sarah Thompson, who championed the bill, emphasized its importance: “This legislation allows individuals to grieve their loss without having to deplete their sick leave. Grief is not an illness; it is a profound loss that deserves time to process.”
Having experienced multiple pregnancy losses myself, I know how challenging it can be to return to work prematurely, often exhausting my sick leave and still feeling unprepared to face the day-to-day. Statistics indicate that one in four pregnancies ends in loss, highlighting that in any sizable workplace, there are likely several individuals grappling with this heartbreaking reality. My own journey included two ectopic pregnancies that posed significant health risks—one necessitating emergency surgery, while the other required an injection of a drug typically utilized for cancer treatment. I also endured a “missed miscarriage,” where the embryo had ceased development without my knowledge, leading to weeks of uncertainty, followed by losing my son, Leo, during the second trimester, which involved additional surgery and resulted in severe emotional distress.
While even non-complicated pregnancy losses carry emotional weight, research indicates that 29% of women who have experienced a miscarriage or ectopic pregnancy report symptoms of post-traumatic stress just one month after their loss. Many suffer from moderate to severe anxiety and depression. A 2016 study on stillbirths found that bereaved parents face elevated rates of emotional disorders, including depression and anxiety, alongside feelings of guilt and long-term trauma.
Three Days Is Not Enough
This brings me to my concern about New Zealand’s new law: three days simply isn’t sufficient. While I appreciate the progress represented by this legislation, three days of leave is merely a symbolic gesture. It fails to provide adequate time to process the heartbreaking news of losing a baby. It falls short for those recovering from emergency medical procedures, healing from the trauma of delivering a stillborn child, or organizing memorial services. Simply put, three days is not enough.
Some may argue that “three days is better than nothing,” akin to the inadequate six weeks of maternity leave often offered. But we must aim for more than just “better than nothing.” Countries like India provide six weeks of leave after a miscarriage, while Vietnam offers between 10 to 50 days, depending on the gestational age. In Korea, leave duration correlates with the pregnancy stage, and it is fully compensated, ensuring job security during this sensitive time.
The absence of similar policies in the U.S. prompts me to question the notion that we are the epitome of progress and equality. U.S. lawmakers, let’s aim higher. Let’s do more for women and their partners facing the profound grief of losing not just a child but also their aspirations for the future.
Further Insights and Resources
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To delve deeper, you might search for:
- How to cope with pregnancy loss
- Paid leave policies for miscarriages
- Support groups for miscarriage
- Recovery after stillbirth
- Understanding ectopic pregnancies
Conclusion
In summary, while New Zealand’s Miscarriage Relief Bill is a step forward in recognizing the emotional and physical toll of pregnancy loss, three days of leave is grossly inadequate. We must strive for more substantial support that reflects the complexity of grief and recovery.