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I was quite the spirited teenager, and I own up to it. But let’s be honest, I can largely attribute that to the hormones of puberty surging through me. Before the onset of my teenage changes, I remember waking up every day filled with joy. I was excited about going to school, wearing my favorite purple shirt, and coming home to hot chocolate. I even relished the sound of raindrops.
I was that kid who was always buzzing with energy, and my teachers would often tell my parents that I was “too social” and needed to tone it down. My mom even devised a game called “Let’s See How Long You Can Go Without Talking,” and I never managed to last more than three minutes, no matter how tempting her offer was.
Then, around the age of twelve, everything shifted. I was sitting in band class when out of nowhere, tears started streaming down my face. The joyful girl who couldn’t wait for the dance that evening was gone, replaced by someone craving solitude. Thankfully, those feelings subsided, and I returned to my upbeat self in my late teen years. I naively assumed that phase was just a typical teenage experience.
But then I turned 40. Suddenly, the girl who had cried in band class seemed like a sweet memory compared to the fiercely irritable woman I’ve become. Almost six years have passed since that milestone, and my mood swings have only intensified. One moment I’m perfectly fine, and the next, I feel capable of snapping a log in half with my bare hands. The unpredictability of my temperament often catches me off guard, and I can shift into “bitch mode” at any moment.
Recently, I spoke with a friend who shared that she and her husband established a safe word for when her mood starts to spiral. Yes, a safe word! If you haven’t reached the perimenopausal stage, you might find this amusing, but until you experience it yourself, you can’t really judge. These emotions are genuine, and despite trying various remedies—like sleep, exercise, cutting down on sugar, and taking magnesium—there’s no universal solution that works for everyone.
Middle-aged mood swings can feel like someone else is manipulating your mind with a remote control. One minute, you’re at ease, and within half an hour, anxiety hits you out of the blue. Your body plays tricks on you too. One moment I’m freezing cold with terrible circulation, and the next, I’m so hot that I contemplate stepping outside in the nude to feel the breeze.
Then there are the days when I’m ravenous, dreaming of indulging in turkey legs and cheesecake, only to be greeted by nausea and cramps. Friends of mine are experiencing similar extremes—some have lost their libido, while others report an insatiable sex drive that leaves their partners exhausted. And let’s not forget the delightful aging trifecta: acne, wrinkles, and hair sprouting in unexpected places—like being kicked while you’re already down.
I think I’m having a good day until I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror and see the acne on my jawline and those pesky whiskers. It’s as if my body has decided, “Now is the time to really mess with you—let’s take away your sleep and introduce zits, facial hair, and hormonal chaos.”
You truly don’t grasp the depth of irritability until you reach your 40s. Sure, there are perks to this stage of life—like not caring as much about others’ opinions and knowing which jeans fit best—but that doesn’t stop you from wanting to grab the bag of chips from your partner’s hands and smash it against their head when they chew too loudly. A simple clogged sink can bring you to tears, and you’ll lose sleep whether or not you have a lot on your mind.
Essentially, middle age feels like experiencing severe PMS every other day. On the days you feel like yourself, there’s still that underlying dread of when the feisty, irritable version of you will return. I wish there were a magic pill to alleviate this, but until we find one, maybe we should all adopt a safe word, as it seems to be helping my friend.
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Summary
Reaching your 40s brings a whole new level of irritability that is often overlooked. The carefree joys of youth give way to unpredictable mood swings, anxiety, and the challenges of aging. From fluctuating energy levels to the impact of hormonal changes, navigating this stage can feel overwhelming. However, sharing experiences and finding support can help manage these changes.