Have you ever noticed how much better water tastes when you’re extremely thirsty? Or the way a slice of your grandmother’s apple pie can become a memorable experience after a period of avoiding sweets? The old saying, “Good things come to those who wait,” holds a certain truth. While there are times when waiting might feel pointless, there’s definitely merit in building anticipation—whether it’s for a goal in life or pleasure in the bedroom.
This concept can apply to your intimate life as well. Edging, or bringing yourself close to orgasm and then stopping, has the potential to make your climactic moments even more intense. Of course, this might not resonate if you’re a busy parent with limited time for self-care. Many of us are exhausted after long days and just want to quickly unwind. However, if you can carve out some time for yourself, the benefits are worth exploring.
How to Practice Edging
So, how do you practice edging, and what are the advantages? We reached out to Emma Blackwood, a Certified Sex Educator and Relationship Specialist at Sensual Insights, who provided some valuable advice to get started.
Firstly, shift your focus from achieving an orgasm to enjoying the journey. “Masturbation shouldn’t just be a way to relieve stress or boredom,” says Blackwood.
Additionally, it’s best to avoid any visual distractions, such as adult films or provocative images, while practicing edging. Blackwood explains that these can divert your attention away from your own sensations, which is the essence of edging. Getting to know your body is crucial, so begin by exploring solo before involving a partner.
Creating the Right Environment
To kick off the process, create a comfortable environment. Dim the lights, lock the doors, light some candles, or play music—whatever helps you relax and concentrate. Next, close your eyes and let your imagination wander to fantasies that arouse you. As you start to touch yourself, pay attention to the physical signs of arousal: an increased heartbeat, tensing muscles, and heightened sensitivity.
The aim is to hover around 80% arousal and then pull back to 50% when you approach climax. Stop stimulation before reaching orgasm and slow down your movements. After practicing this technique a few times, you can allow yourself to climax and observe if the experience feels more intense or prolonged.
Edging with a Partner
Blackwood suggests keeping your sessions to about 15-20 minutes—there’s no need for a lengthy encounter. If you decide to try edging with a partner, communication is key. When you feel yourself nearing orgasm, let your partner know to ease off the stimulation and switch to softer touches elsewhere, like your thighs or shoulders. This back-and-forth can heighten the overall experience.
The Benefits of Edging
The benefits of edging extend beyond the physical. It can enhance your body awareness and boost your confidence in your own pleasure. This practice not only helps women discover their pleasure points but can also lead to more powerful and longer-lasting orgasms.
If a few minutes of “Mommy Alone Time” each week can lead to more satisfying intimate experiences, it’s certainly a worthy investment in self-care. For more insights into related topics, check out this blog post on home insemination techniques or learn more from Intracervical Insemination, an authority in the field. Additionally, for support on pregnancy and home insemination, this resource is invaluable.
Summary
Edging can enhance your sexual experiences by allowing you to build anticipation and prolong pleasure. By focusing on your body, creating a relaxing environment, and practicing self-exploration, you can discover more intense orgasms. Whether solo or with a partner, communicating your needs and desires is essential for maximizing pleasure.