In this week’s advice column, we tackle a common dilemma: how to respond when people incessantly inquire if you’re “trying for a boy” after having two daughters.
Dear Home Insemination Kit,
My partner, Jamie, and I are proud parents of two wonderful daughters aged three and one. Jamie comes from a large family, with four siblings, each having three to five kids of their own. We always intended to have just two kids, and we couldn’t be happier with our girls. We’re not focused on the sex of our children; we even skipped the whole gender reveal party trend because it seemed silly to us. Yet, many family members, friends, and even casual acquaintances keep asking if we plan on “trying for a boy.” This constant questioning feels rude and undermines our amazing daughters.
The idea of “trying for a boy” is baffling and frankly, unnecessary for most people. Unless you’re a royal worrying about a male heir, there’s no valid reason to fixate on a child’s gender. It’s astonishing how many individuals overstep boundaries when discussing family size, pregnancy, and the sex of children. Having two daughters is just as valid as having a son. The obsession with a child’s genitalia is simply perplexing. Why does it matter so much?
The best way to address this issue is to be straightforward. Since those asking are being direct, you have every right to respond honestly without guilt.
For instance, when someone asks: “Aww, two girls! Are you going to try for a boy?” you can confidently reply: “Nope! We’re completely satisfied with our two fantastic kids.” If they press further, saying something like, “But wouldn’t you love to have a son and enjoy [insert stereotypical gender activity here]?” you can firmly say again: “Nope! We’re perfectly happy with the two great kids we’ve already got. But since you seem to think that’s not enough, I’m curious why you feel that way?”
Often, this approach leaves them speechless, and they might quickly change the subject.
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Summary:
In this article, we discuss how to cope with the constant inquiries about having a son after welcoming two daughters. The emphasis is on being direct and confident in your responses while also highlighting the importance of respecting family dynamics and boundaries. It’s crucial to remember that family happiness comes in many forms, and societal pressures should not dictate personal choices.