During the COVID-19 pandemic, being an ICU nurse while also being a mother has been a profound experience. This role feels more like a calling than just a job, reaffirmed by my family’s belief: “You would be a fantastic nurse.” It seems like nursing chose me, shaping my understanding of human vulnerability and the emotional masks people wear. My patients are in crisis, pushed to their limits physically and emotionally. They are exposed in ways they never imagined, and as a caregiver, I navigate the delicate balance between their privacy and the need for connection.
The pandemic has brought the medical world into public consciousness. People now have a clearer understanding of my work, as hospitals and ICUs have been highlighted in the media. While many refer to us as heroes, I find myself feeling uneasy about the label. I love my job and continue to show up for work each day, but the stakes are higher now—there’s a genuine risk of contracting the virus that my patients are battling. In the beginning, that reality weighed heavily on me. I found solace in therapy, prayer, and even planning for the unthinkable—discussing my wishes with my husband in case I needed hospitalization or worse. My young daughters, aged five and eight, have also grappled with this fear. One day, my daughter asked, “Who will be my mom and dad if you die of COVID?” I reassured her that her aunt and uncle would care for her, and we talked it through. This conversation lightened my emotional burden, allowing me to focus on my work without the constant shadow of anxiety.
COVID-19 patients come from all walks of life—young, old, healthy, or with pre-existing conditions. Many are essential workers or individuals who’ve unknowingly been exposed. They display various symptoms like severe cough, fatigue, and difficulty breathing; some are too sick to communicate and rely on machines for support. Caring for them often involves finding ways to connect, whether it’s propping up a phone for family visits or simply sitting with them during their lonely moments. I’ve held hands with patients as they near death, knowing their families can only watch from a distance, which has been heartbreaking.
In my hospital, one family member is allowed to visit for compassionate reasons, but they must wear extensive protective gear. It’s a tough decision for families to make, choosing who can have that final moment. While some people protest against restrictions, I’ve witnessed the compassion of family members as they leave in tears, fully understanding the gravity of the situation.
Over the years, I’ve learned to compartmentalize my feelings, often sharing my experiences with my husband, who is also in healthcare. However, this time it’s different. The fear of the virus infiltrates every aspect of my life—from social media to conversations with friends and even my children. The nightmares I have are vivid reminders of the risks I face. As Minnesota begins to lift restrictions, I’m torn between the desire for normalcy and the fear of what it could mean for my loved ones.
Finding a way to manage this fear is crucial. I sometimes confront it bravely and other times retreat into a good book. It’s essential to recognize that everyone handles fear and uncertainty differently. I strive to treat others with kindness and empathy, particularly those who are vulnerable. I want to be there for people in their moments of fear, just as others have supported me. Ultimately, our common enemy is the virus itself.
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Summary
Navigating the dual roles of being an ICU nurse and a mother during the COVID-19 pandemic has been challenging yet enlightening. The experience has deepened my understanding of vulnerability and the importance of connection at a time when fear looms large. Balancing my professional responsibilities with my family life requires ongoing emotional resilience and compassion for both my patients and those I love.