Recently, I shared a snapshot on my blog’s Facebook page of me engaging in a Humpty Dumpty game with my five-year-old while juggling Zoom meetings. My partner, Lisa, was in another room assisting our ten-year-old, Emma, who had just experienced a meltdown over math homework. Amid the chaos, our five-year-old, Charlie, persistently pleaded with his mom to join him in play, prompting my decision to step in and support Lisa. Earlier in the day, I was also ensuring that our thirteen-year-old, Max, stayed on track with his school responsibilities, all while trying to manage my own workload.
The intention behind my post was to highlight this new normal, yet I was taken aback by the comments indicating that many fathers are not contributing to homeschooling while working from home. One woman mentioned her husband would lock himself away in the bedroom, leaving her to manage the homeschooling of their five children on her own while working full-time. I’ll be frank: that’s just inconsiderate.
I understand these times are challenging. I work at a university that faced a $35 million loss due to the pandemic, and discussions about layoffs and budget cuts are prevalent. Like many, I’m concerned about job security and am taking on additional projects to prove my worth. However, that’s no justification for neglecting your role in homeschooling.
If both you and your partner are working from home, she’s facing the same pressures. Dads, it’s crucial to step up and lend a hand. This might require adjusting your work hours to be available during the day, whether that means starting earlier or working later in the evening. You could set up your workspace in the kitchen, managing emails on your laptop while assisting your child with their studies. Collaborating with your partner to create a schedule can also ensure that you both know when you’re available for the kids and when you need private time for meetings.
Sure, some jobs might demand uninterrupted focus, but those situations are relatively rare, especially now that many employers are more understanding of family dynamics.
What works well for Lisa and me is that she focuses on the younger kids in the mornings when they have less work. This allows her to transition to her job in the afternoon. I take on Max, who is capable of working independently but often needs accountability. We strategize every morning, mapping out his assignments and setting timers for tasks. I keep an eye on him while I work, nudging him back on track when distractions arise. After lunch, all the kids are done with their schoolwork and enjoy some outdoor playtime.
Working alongside my partner has deepened my connection with my children, especially my older son, and has positively impacted my marriage. While I’d prefer to be back in the office and the kids back in school, collaborating on schoolwork has highlighted our strengths and weaknesses as parents, allowing us to shine together.
Life right now feels like an intricate blend of family, work, and school — and each day brings surprises during my online meetings, whether it’s a child needing assistance with homework or a simple snack. Like everyone else, I’m striving to balance my professional responsibilities while being present for my kids. It’s manageable, which is why it’s essential to share the load with your partner.
Fellas, I know this may seem like a critique from an online guy writing on a blog, but it’s not meant to be an attack. Instead, take this as a call to action: sit down with your partner and discuss homeschooling. Don’t retreat to a secluded corner of the house. Step up, assess the required tasks, and find ways to contribute. It’s not as daunting as it seems and will ultimately benefit both your family and your relationship. For additional tips on family and parenting, check out one of our other blog posts here and for expert insights, visit Intracervical Insemination and Cleveland Clinic.
Summary
Working from home doesn’t mean you can’t help with homeschooling. Adjust your schedule to be present for your kids while managing your work commitments. Collaborate with your partner to create a structured routine, ensuring both of you share the responsibilities. This approach not only helps your children but also strengthens your family bond.