As a pediatrician, my background gives me a unique perspective, yet even I was overwhelmed with fear when my child needed to go to the emergency room.
In February 2015, my eldest daughter was just 15 months old during Valentine’s week. She had been unwell for several days, and I suspected it was a viral infection—likely RSV (Respiratory Syncytial Virus) based on the illness circulating in her school. RSV is a highly contagious virus affecting the respiratory system. While most children only experience mild symptoms like a cold, fever, or cough, a small percentage can develop serious issues like pneumonia or bronchiolitis.
Despite my experience as a pediatrician and neonatologist, I felt that my daughter was in good health since she had no prior medical problems. My husband, aware of my discussions about RSV, inquired how I would recognize if her condition worsened. I confidently stated, “I will just know.”
And at 6 p.m., I did know. I felt an urgent need to take her to the hospital. My husband was on a business call, and I remember interrupting him to insist, “We need to go—now.” He was taken aback but didn’t question me. I hurried us into the car, urging him to drive faster and disregard the red lights.
Arriving at the emergency room, I was engulfed with a heavy mix of fear and uncertainty. This was my daughter in the very hospital where I worked, and even though I knew the staff and protocols, I couldn’t shake my anxiety. I was aware that when her oxygen levels dropped into the 70s and they administered more oxygen, she was receiving proper care. Yet, despite my knowledge and experience, dread lingered.
She was admitted to the Pediatric ICU, and the on-call doctor was a respected colleague. Just seeing a familiar face provided some solace, affirming that she would be okay. After three days, she was discharged home with oxygen for a few more days, recovering without complications.
Fast forward to January 2020, my son exhibited symptoms reminiscent of my daughter back in 2015. The girls were sound asleep, so my husband stayed home while I took him to the ER. This time, it wasn’t flu or RSV; another virus was causing him breathing difficulties, necessitating oxygen. We were admitted for oxygen therapy and IV fluids. Having navigated a hospital stay before, I felt slightly more prepared, but still found comfort when the doctor entered, reassuring me we were in capable hands.
Tips for Managing a Hospital Stay with Your Little Ones
Why share this experience? When your child is hospitalized, several strategies can ease the stress of parenting in such situations. Here are my top tips for managing a hospital stay with your little ones:
- Seek Familiar Faces: If your child has been in the NICU or has ongoing medical needs, seeing a familiar nurse or doctor can be incredibly reassuring. While not always feasible, this connection can provide significant comfort.
- Know What to Expect: Understand that emergency rooms prioritize the most critical cases first. You may find yourself repeating your child’s medical history to multiple staff members. Prepare for the “hurry up and wait” process—tests may take time, and results will have you on edge. If your child is admitted, be ready to recount their story yet again.
- Sleep is Challenging: Hospitals can be noisy and disruptive. Bring a comfy pillow for the hospital couch, wear comfortable clothes, and sleep when your child sleeps. Your well-being is crucial for their care.
- Entertainment Matters: Keep your device handy for movies, reading, or catching up with the news. Books and magazines can also provide a distraction from the hospital environment.
- Request Takeout Menus: Hospital food can be bearable for a short time, but after that, you’ll crave something more satisfying. Nurses often know the best local delivery options—ask them! Also, carry a water bottle to stay hydrated.
- Accept Help: It can be difficult to accept assistance, but when someone offers support, say yes. Whether it’s a meal, childcare, or just company, it’s important to lean on others during this time.
- Advocate for Your Child: Always seek clarification on your child’s condition and care plan. If something is unclear, don’t hesitate to ask questions. Take notes and remember, you are your child’s best advocate.
- Take It One Day at a Time: Focus on the positives and stay flexible. Each day in the hospital brings its own challenges and triumphs; maintaining a positive mindset can greatly affect your experience.
Hospital visits can be daunting and draining, but with some preparation and patience, you can ease your journey as a parent. While prioritizing your child’s health, don’t forget to care for yourself. After all, your well-being is just as important.
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In summary, while hospital stays can induce fear and anxiety for any parent, having a plan and understanding the process can alleviate some of the stress. By taking care of yourself and your child, you can navigate this challenging time with more confidence.