Updated: June 8, 2020 | Originally Published: Feb. 21, 2020
It’s rare for anyone to be born with an abundance of self-confidence—except perhaps for a few unique individuals. Generally, self-assurance is cultivated over many years, ideally beginning in childhood. Confidence is crucial; it helps us navigate the inevitable ups and downs of life, from career challenges to personal relationships. However, maintaining this confidence can be difficult, especially after setbacks like a breakup, job loss, or negative influences from toxic people. So, how do you keep your self-esteem afloat? Fortunately, we’ve compiled a list of impactful exercises designed to bolster your confidence, enhance your self-image, and help you harness your innate strengths.
Embrace the “Fake It ‘Til You Make It” Mindset
This concept isn’t about dishonesty—like exaggerating your skills on a CV—but rather about adopting a more confident persona. Sometimes, it’s about donning the outfit that makes you feel unstoppable and channeling a more assertive version of yourself. Think of how celebrities like Ariana Grande step into their roles with undeniable confidence. So, take a cue from them: make eye contact, listen to uplifting music (Ariana and Lizzo are great choices), and wear that outfit that makes you feel fierce. Before long, you’ll notice a shift in how you feel. When you feel good, you act boldly; when you act boldly, you make powerful moves.
Step Outside Your Comfort Zone
Challenge yourself with activities that stretch your limits—perhaps joining an improv class, trying rock climbing, or attending a public speaking group. The aim is to confront your fears and let go of self-doubt. Engaging in uncomfortable experiences will build your trust in yourself and prove that you can tackle tough challenges. Once you realize your ability to overcome obstacles, your confidence will soar.
Affirm Your Desires and Challenge Your Inner Critic
Affirmations are potent tools for reshaping our thoughts and feelings about ourselves. These should be framed in the present tense, starting with “I am.” Instead of thinking, “Why do I always attract the wrong people?” you could assert, “I am attracting a positive, supportive partner into my life.” Regularly expressing affirmations can help shift your focus toward possibilities rather than limitations. Aim to recite a few affirmations daily to kickstart your day.
To reinforce these affirmations, critically examine your inner critic. When you’re feeling down, this critic often magnifies your flaws. Counter this negativity by seeking evidence that contradicts it. Reflect on moments when you’ve enjoyed healthy relationships or achieved significant goals. Focus on the positive outcomes.
Give Yourself Permission to Be Wrong
Many struggle with the fear of being wrong, which can severely impact confidence. Consider the approach of Noah Rivera, who gained recognition for intentionally exposing himself to rejection by making outrageous requests for 100 days. You might try answering questions incorrectly on purpose or jokingly asking a salesperson if they stock swimming pools. These exercises can help you break free from the need to always be right, which is a key step in building self-assurance.
Help Others in Need
Whether it’s volunteering at a local charity, mentoring a young person, or checking in on a neighbor, helping others shifts your focus from your own issues to the needs of those around you. This perspective can foster a sense of gratitude and purpose in your life. When you help others, you not only contribute positively to the community but also uplift your own spirits.
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Summary
Building confidence is a journey that requires intentional effort and practice. By embracing a confident persona, stepping out of your comfort zone, affirming your worth, allowing room for mistakes, and helping others, you can significantly enhance your self-esteem. Remember, confidence is not innate; it is cultivated through experience and self-reflection.