Having children is undoubtedly challenging. In fact, it’s the toughest journey I’ve ever embarked on. After welcoming my third child, I’ve officially closed the chapter on expanding my family—thanks to a tubal ligation post my third C-section last May. With my youngest now eight months old, I’m finally reclaiming some peace in my life. Not only have I realized my dream of having three kids, but I also breathe easier knowing I won’t go through the upheaval of adding another little one to the mix.
Here’s a glimpse into my feelings during each transition from zero to three kids:
Zero to One – The Ultimate Rollercoaster
Honestly, nothing can truly prepare you for your first child. I could have purchased every baby gadget known to man and devoured every parenting book available, but I still would not have been “ready.” The emotions I anticipated experiencing as a new mom were far from what actually unfolded.
When my son arrived, I was filled with joy and gratitude for his health, but I was also overwhelmed and scared. The sleepless nights, the recovery from a long labor, and the pain of nursing made those early days incredibly tough. I thought my maternity leave would be a time of bliss, but it turned out to be a fight for survival. I realized that many new moms face similar struggles, yet few openly discuss them. If only someone had prepared me for what I call the “100 Day War,” perhaps I would have found it easier to adjust to the monumental changes of first-time motherhood.
One to Two – The Embraced Chaos
The arrival of my daughter felt like a minor adjustment—like tossing a life preserver to a ship that was already afloat. The challenges were still there, but this time, I had a playbook. I was familiar with the late-night feedings, diaper changes, and cranky moments, and I was ready for action. My husband helped out with our two-year-old son, making it feel manageable.
Having a second child brought a delightful kind of chaos. The days were no longer monotonous; my kids began entertaining each other, which was a huge relief. Instead of fretting alone with a baby during the quiet evenings, I had a toddler to keep my mind occupied. This transition enriched my experience as a mother, filling my days with joy and laughter.
Two to Three – The Real Adventure
I’ve always envisioned having three children. Growing up in a family of two, I often wondered what life with an additional sibling would be like. After much deliberation, especially considering my son’s battle with leukemia at just three years old, we decided to take the plunge. Despite the uncertainty, I knew I’d regret not trying for a third.
When our baby arrived, the exhaustion was palpable. Keeping up with a three-year-old and a five-year-old felt like running a marathon. The initial months were rough as I struggled to juggle all the needs of my children. Slowly but surely, however, I began to find my footing and emerge from the fog of those early days. Recently, I’ve experienced some of my happiest moments as a mother, and that sense of completion is incredibly fulfilling.
My son is nearing the end of his leukemia treatment and thriving in kindergarten, while my daughter is bursting with energy and making me laugh daily. And this new baby? He’s an absolute delight. I’m not sure if he’s genuinely the happiest little one or if I’m just savoring every moment as a seasoned mom, but it’s pure bliss.
I’m now a mother of three, and this is the life I’ve always wanted.
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Summary
Transitioning from two to three kids can be a whirlwind, filled with challenges and joys. While the early days with a first child can feel overwhelming, subsequent additions bring their unique chaos but also a new dynamic that enriches family life. Embracing this journey leads to a fulfilling experience, culminating in the joyful chaos of a larger family.