As I dive into the exhilarating waters of new love, people keep advising me to savor every moment because it’s a one-of-a-kind experience. While I appreciate their enthusiasm, I can’t help but disagree. Yes, new love is thrilling and can make your heart race, but it also brings a whirlwind of insecurities and expectations. Here are seven reasons why old love truly takes the cake:
- You Feel at Home
Old love is like your favorite, perfectly worn-in hoodie. There’s no pressure to impress or put on a show. You come to enjoy the excitement of spontaneous adventures and the comfort of lazy evenings spent in your most comfortable clothes, eating pizza while the kids sleep. You can let your hair down—literally and figuratively—because you know your partner loves you just as you are, flaws and all. - Predictability Equals Comfort
When you’ve been with someone for a while, you know their quirks. If they flake on a date or shy away from social gatherings, it’s no longer a personal affront. You can say things like, “Honey, I love you, but I can only handle family gatherings for so long.” This understanding takes the pressure off, allowing both of you to relax and just be yourselves. - Mastering the Art of Annoyance
When you’ve been together for a bit, you learn exactly how to push each other’s buttons. Sure, it’s not always pretty, but knowing how to get back at your partner when they leave the toilet seat up or ignore your kid’s meltdown is part of the fun. In the early stages, you’re still figuring out your partner’s sensitivities—old love lets you skip the guesswork. - Freedom in the Little Things
Old love allows for the kind of comfort that lets you be human. You can pass gas or excuse yourself for a bathroom break without it being a big deal. You can have those “Hey, can you grab the plunger?” conversations without a second thought. No more awkward exits or elaborate excuses—just honesty and a sense of humor about the realities of life. - Shared Secrets and Inside Jokes
With years of shared experiences, old love is filled with unspoken understandings. Your partner knows your “I need to leave now” look and can read your moods with a glance. Inside jokes, like that time you spilled coffee on your date, become cherished memories that only you two can appreciate. These shared moments create a bond that new love simply can’t replicate. - Confidence in Vulnerability
In old love, the nerves are gone. You don’t stress about whether they’ll still love you when they see your quirks, like how you stretch out your jeans after washing them. They’ve seen you at your worst and are still there. This kind of acceptance is empowering and liberating. - Intimacy Evolves
Let’s not forget the sex. Over time, intimacy often improves, as you learn each other’s preferences and desires. There’s no need for pretense or performance anxiety. You can be candid about what feels good or what might not be the best idea after a heavy meal. It’s about connection rather than just physical attraction, and that makes all the difference.
While I’m certainly enjoying the excitement of new love, I can’t deny that old love has its own unique charm. If you ever find yourself thinking your relationship has lost its spark, remember that the depth of old love is something special. Don’t take it for granted, because nothing else quite compares. For more on navigating relationships and love, check out this blog post.
Summary: Old love offers a depth of comfort, understanding, and intimacy that new love simply cannot match. From the freedom to be yourself to the shared inside jokes and mutual understanding, old love is a treasure that should never be underestimated.