I recently came across a memory on my Timehop app, which showcases past social media statuses. One post from ten years ago stood out, and despite the decade that’s passed, not much has changed. I’m still married to the same wonderful person, though his job has evolved. He remains as committed to his work as ever, clocking in at least six days a week, often juggling work commitments even during the holiday season to assist with year-end tasks.
For many, such a demanding work schedule sounds exhausting—myself included, even though I love my job. But my husband, John, thrives on his impressive work ethic, always pushing himself for his employer. While this dedication brings him satisfaction, it leaves me managing the home front, especially during the bustling holiday season.
With four kids, planning holiday gatherings becomes a real challenge. My husband’s rigorous work commitments mean he can’t join us for every festive occasion. Over the years, I’ve adapted to navigate these challenges by:
Focusing on Key Traditions
There are activities my kids are fine doing without Dad, like baking Christmas cookies. Conversely, some events, like our cherished tradition of driving around to see Christmas lights in our pajamas with hot cocoa in hand, require his involvement. So, we plan accordingly.
Embracing Flexibility
While certain events, like school plays or friends’ parties, occur at set times, other traditions can be more adaptable. Sometimes we shift our plans to fit around John’s schedule, allowing us to enjoy our holiday rituals whenever possible. Maintaining a rigid schedule just isn’t feasible with his workload.
Choosing Wisely
The holiday season offers countless opportunities for celebration, but trying to attend every event can be overwhelming. Instead of accepting every invitation, we’re selective, focusing on what truly matters to us. This approach ensures I don’t stretch myself too thin, allowing us to cherish the moments we do share.
One of our beloved traditions is filling “Project Joy” gift boxes for a local outreach organization. Each child receives a box, and as they fill it with toys and gifts for others, John and I gather necessities like diapers and scarves. We wrap it all together and donate it, teaching our kids the importance of giving back throughout the year—not just during the holidays.
We also create meaningful moments by binge-watching holiday movies or revisiting our cherished Christmas storybooks by the tree. Even our teenager still enjoys these tales, proving that quality time is what we value most.
Our kids have grown accustomed to their dad’s schedule, so they don’t feel deprived. They know that if something is crucial, John will rearrange his hours to be there, as he prioritizes their special moments.
Navigating the holiday season can be tough when John’s idea of festive is wearing a Santa hat with his work attire, yet I remain mindful of what truly matters. His job provides for us and enables us to brighten others’ holidays, which is something for which I’m genuinely grateful, even amidst the chaos.
While we may not be together for every holiday moment, the time we do share becomes even more special.
In summary, managing a holiday season with a partner who works long hours involves prioritizing key traditions, being flexible with schedules, and choosing which events to attend carefully. By focusing on meaningful moments, we can ensure that our family enjoys the holidays, even when not everyone is present.