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If your child is acting out, you can bet I’ll get involved.
We all yearn for a community where we can lean on each other, where trust is abundant. A place where we can share a Band-Aid, a juice box, or just a helping hand. We want genuine conversations at the playground instead of scrolling through our phones, fostering that sense of belonging. We believe it truly takes a village, and we’re eager to reclaim ours.
It’s important for us to feel that others are keeping an eye on our children. All kids deserve a collective sense of responsibility from the community. That sometimes means if your child is being rude, I’ll step in. And I sincerely hope that if my child is being a nuisance, you’ll do the same.
Let me clarify: I won’t approach your young one and scream at them for throwing sand. I wouldn’t allow you to do that to my child, either. Such behavior is simply unacceptable. I’ve experienced strangers yelling at my kids, thinking they were correcting bad behavior, and all it did was infuriate me. My kids have ADHD and often need gentle reminders and direction—your child might too. So when I intervene because your child is being disrespectful, I keep that in mind. I trust you will, as well.
Kids will be kids; it’s a fact of life. At some point, every child will misbehave. But certain actions warrant intervention from bystanders—especially if I can’t find you or you’re not paying attention.
- Blatant Meanness: Should your child be calling mine names or bullying them, I’m stepping in. In my home, that behavior is intolerable, and I won’t allow my kids to endure it.
- Physical Aggression: It doesn’t matter who instigated it. If there’s any form of violence—shoving, hitting, or throwing—I will address the situation.
- Clearly Dangerous Activities: Safety is my top priority. If I perceive a risk—like your toddler perilously close to a ledge—I’ll intervene.
- Inappropriate Conversations: If I catch your child discussing adult topics with my little one, such as what a blowjob is, I will step in. This isn’t about shaming anyone; it’s about keeping my child innocent and safe from such discussions.
- Disregarding Boundaries: If a child has repeatedly asked another not to touch them and their wishes are ignored, I will intervene. No one has the right to touch anyone else in ways they don’t consent to.
- Taking Toys: If I witness a child snatching a toy from another, I will address it. That’s stealing and, frankly, it’s just rude.
However, the right approach matters. When intervening, it’s crucial to remain calm and respectful. You don’t storm in yelling; instead, you should get down to their level, introduce yourself, and make it clear you’re part of the community. This transforms you from a stranger into someone they can recognize.
Then, name the behavior: “I saw you call that child a jerk/push them/take that toy. That’s not kind, and I’m sure your parents wouldn’t approve.” This not only addresses the behavior but also implies that you hold your own child to similar standards.
You might say, “I’m going to have to ask you to stop that,” or “I may need to speak to your parent.” This sets clear boundaries. Remember, you’re not being threatening; you’re simply guiding them along the right path.
If I find out my child has acted inappropriately, I want to know. Please approach me with details, and if you handle it well, I’d love to bake you cookies. That’s how we build our village, right?
So don’t shy away from stepping in when a child is misbehaving. Just do it with kindness and understanding. Keep in mind that kids may have issues you’re unaware of. They’re still learning how to be good humans, just like your kids. Let’s work together to foster a respectful environment for all of our children.
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