April 16, 2019
My son came home from school with a huge smile, tightly holding a piece of paper. “What’s that, kiddo?” I asked, squatting to his level. “I got an award!” he exclaimed. He had been diligently working on articulating his needs and responding to various situations, and this award was a testament to his efforts. He had been called to the principal’s office, and his classmates were aware of his achievement—he received a “Do the Right Thing Award.”
Parents everywhere can attest to the profound impact of connection through positive reinforcement for children. And it’s not about giving every child a participation ribbon or gold star. In fact, recognition and connection are remarkably straightforward.
A video from Edutopia, produced by the George Lucas Educational Foundation, showcases students reacting positively when school staff take a moment to acknowledge them with simple gestures like eye contact, encouraging words, and high-fives.
Why Connection Matters
Why are these gestures so effective? The answer lies in science. Dr. Pamela Cantor, featured in the video, explains that “When children experience closeness, consistency, and trust, oxytocin is released. This hormone has numerous positive effects on brain development.” Oxytocin, often dubbed the “love hormone,” fosters attachment between individuals and contributes to feelings of happiness and connection.
The video further illustrates that when educators invest time in building positive, long-term relationships with their students, those students are more likely to excel academically. They feel secure, valued, and prioritized. Essentially, students who feel connected to their teachers are more prepared to learn. Relationships are crucial, and their significance becomes even clearer when it comes to children’s education.
Personal Experience
Having taught college English for nine years, I witnessed firsthand the importance of connection. Many of my students faced significant life challenges—one had a mother battling a serious illness, while another was a single parent juggling two jobs alongside her classes. I made it a priority to connect with my students, staying after class or arriving early to greet them as they walked in. I assisted a student in registering with disability support services and helped others find counseling for anxiety and difficult personal situations.
My students recognized that I valued their well-being more than the grades I assigned them. This genuine care fostered their attendance, participation, and the quality of their work. I found that those students I connected with most deeply tended to achieve better grades—not out of favoritism, but because they were actively engaged in their learning.
So, when my son returned home proudly clutching his certificate, I couldn’t help but celebrate. I understand that not every child finds success easily, but I also know there are compassionate individuals—like his principal, teachers, bus driver, and speech therapist—encouraging him to reach his potential.
The Beatles’ song “All You Need is Love” resonates here (sorry for getting it stuck in your head). Connection is simple yet profoundly impactful.
The Challenges Educators Face
Unfortunately, teachers today face immense pressures and challenges. My educator friends share that they juggle numerous responsibilities, often feeling overworked and underappreciated. Yet, their role in shaping our children’s lives is crucial.
The video emphasizes that dedicating just a few seconds daily to offer encouragement or a simple high-five can significantly enhance a child’s day, making it more productive and enjoyable. For some students, the support they receive from a trusted adult at school may be their only source of connection.
Imagine if every morning began with a warm greeting, as depicted in the video. What transformative effects might we witness? Would children be more inclined to succeed academically if their basic emotional needs were prioritized rather than overlooked? The answer seems clear.
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In summary, fostering genuine connections in schools can profoundly influence students’ academic success and overall well-being. When educators prioritize relationships, children thrive, proving that love and support are essential for learning.