Updated: Oct. 2, 2023
Originally Published: Aug. 2, 2023
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Parenting is a serious undertaking. Your main responsibility? Raising good people. Sure, it’s a bit more complicated than that, but let’s not get bogged down in the nitty-gritty—it’s enough to make anyone anxious. The challenge of knowing what values to instill in your children versus actually doing it is vast, which is why having positive role models is crucial. I consider myself a decent mom most days, but let’s be real: nobody can be on top of their game all the time. So, the more role models we can gather for this parenting journey, the better!
Luckily, I have my husband, Ethan, to help shoulder the responsibility of nurturing our kids. Honestly, I can’t imagine how chaotic it would be if left entirely to my own devices. My daughter, Lily, is quite similar to me, which gives me confidence in teaching her life lessons—though she’s only six, so stay tuned for teenage drama updates! My son, on the other hand, is a different story. His thought processes and interests often leave me scratching my head. Boys, right? They can be a mystery!
That said, I genuinely believe that women can absolutely raise strong, respectable men. Many mothers excel in this role, even without a male figure present. In our home, however, we have a couple of Y-chromosomes running around. While Ethan has his off days, he’s an incredible role model for our children, especially for our son, who looks up to him immensely.
I’ll admit, when my little man started favoring his dad over me, it stung a bit. I mean, come on! I’m the one who mends boo-boos, creates the perfect grilled cheese, and provides comfort after bad dreams. But honestly, I’m incredibly thankful for the bond they share. My son is all about dirt, motors, and sports—interests that align perfectly with Ethan’s passions. I understand the joy of having a mini-me, thanks to my daughter; I want that for them too!
Watching my son emulate his father warms my heart. They even coordinate matching outfits at my son’s request! It’s not unusual to find them “fixing stuff” together in the garage, where my son proudly displays his toy tools alongside Ethan’s. The other day, I caught my son explaining their project to me with the confidence of a seasoned builder.
On game days, they sit side by side on the couch, yelling at the TV, arms casually draped behind their heads. My son studies Ethan’s posture, mirroring him as they lounge. The love and admiration he has for his dad shines through in everything he does.
While some may view a child’s resemblance to their father as a mixed bag, I couldn’t be happier. If my son grows up to be like Ethan, our goal of raising kind-hearted individuals will be so much easier. Just like his dad, my son will be both strong and sensitive, a good listener who not only hears words but understands the emotions behind them. He’ll become a protector for the ones he loves and stand up for what is right, learning from his mistakes and extending grace to both himself and others.
Though it often feels like I’m watching from the sidelines, I couldn’t be prouder knowing there will one day be another remarkable man just like Ethan in the world. For more insights on parenting and home insemination, check out our piece on the at-home insemination kit. Also, if you’re interested in resources for treating infertility, the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists offers excellent information. And for a heartfelt Thanksgiving message, visit Intracervical Insemination.
In summary, I’m truly thankful that my son resembles his father. This connection not only enriches their bond, but it also elevates our family dynamic as we strive to raise compassionate and respectful individuals.