It has been six years since that unforgettable day, and I still carry the tiny onesie adorned with an elephant, embroidered with “Mommy and Me” tucked away in my bag. I made adjustments to it by cutting holes for the probes that track my son’s heart rate and oxygen levels. Footie pajamas were simply not an option.
I had anticipated his homecoming by this time, but he had spent eight weeks in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU). The reality of being two weeks away from his due date was a stark reminder of the journey we were on—a journey filled with emotional highs and lows.
On that Mother’s Day, I found myself seated in a church, clutching my purse tightly, containing the onesie that represented my motherhood. A slideshow showcased joyful families with their new arrivals, and while I was invited to share a photo, I struggled to find one that didn’t depict Charlie surrounded by tubes. I didn’t want to invite pity; I craved strength and determination instead. The laughter and applause around me echoed in stark contrast to my reality, as I sat in jeans and a sweater, preparing to return to the hospital instead of joining the brunch festivities.
Upon arriving at the children’s hospital, I took a moment in the car to gather my thoughts. The smells of exhaust and smoke flooded my senses, and I needed this brief pause to recalibrate my expectations for what this day would entail. My vision of Mother’s Day was filled with laughter and a ten-month-old Charlie, almost walking, basking in the joy of our family. But that was not our reality.
In the car, I reminded myself that Charlie was stable and safe. Following a recent tracheotomy, the doctors reassured us that he would be home soon. He was a joyful little boy, even in his fragility, and I had a new pacifier adorned with a frog that he would adore. Now, he could breathe and suck without dropping his oxygen levels, a small yet significant milestone.
As we entered the NICU, I noted the familiar silence, which signified safety. I had learned to read the monitors outside each room, noting the number of days each child had been in care. At 60 days, we were among those who had spent considerable time there, but not the longest. Many rooms felt lived in, adorned with personal touches from home. I silently prayed for all the families navigating similar paths.
Upon arriving at Charlie’s room, he was alert and ready for a change into the onesie. The nurse assisted me as I dressed him, and I captured a moment, holding him up proudly like a lion cub. We spent hours together, and I received a laminated footprint turned into a flower—a keepsake that read, “Happy Mother’s Day, Mommy. I love you, Charlie.” This was his first piece of art, and it found a cherished place on our fridge.
As the visiting hours ended, we left to enjoy a familiar pizza at home, reminiscent of our wedding day. We shared a bottle of inexpensive Merlot while binge-watching “The Office.” Through it all, I observed myself from a distance, aware of how this day differed from my expectations. The only time I truly felt present was while holding Charlie, feeling his heartbeat against mine—a reminder that the essence of motherhood transcends images or celebrations.
As Mother’s Day faded into night, I held on to these moments of connection, eagerly anticipating the day he would come home for good. Since that day, we’ve celebrated many Mother’s Days, but the lessons learned from that first experience set a tone of appreciation for simply being together.
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Summary
My first Mother’s Day was spent in the NICU with my son, Charlie, highlighting the stark differences between my expectations and reality. Despite the challenges, I found joy in the small moments we shared, learning to appreciate the essence of motherhood beyond traditional celebrations.