I Stopped Picking Up After My Family, and Here’s What Happened

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Last weekend, I decided to take a break. Yes, I know what you’re thinking: How does a mom manage to get a “day off”? It may sound absurd, but I actually did it—and it was truly liberating. Let me share my experience.

I had been feeling drained both mentally and physically for days. Despite that, I still tackled the daily demands of motherhood. I prepared meals, ensured my kids’ safety, reminded them to brush their teeth, and mediated disputes about whose turn it was to use the favorite fork at dinner. I even took care of a few messy situations (literally) while making sure everyone practiced good hygiene.

However, there was one thing I refused to do: clean up after everyone else.

Honestly, I was fed up. My home was a chaotic mess with items strewn about everywhere, and I desperately needed a break. My counters were cluttered with homework, craft projects, bills, and random items like a lone sock and a broken toy that someone insisted was still useful. And let’s not even talk about my couch, which had long since transformed from a welcoming seating area into a dumping ground for laundry, toys, and snack wrappers.

Every day, I felt like a broken record, repeating phrases like “pick this up” and “put that away” countless times. I was tired of tripping over shoes and stumbling upon misplaced library books. Last weekend, I simply couldn’t muster the energy to continue.

So, I decided to let the mess be. If someone visited, I couldn’t claim the disarray was due to an impressive science project or a closet clean-out. No, my house was a wreck because I was exhausted from constantly picking up after everyone and endlessly lecturing them to tidy up.

“I’m done,” I declared. “Peace out!”

My kids were momentarily bewildered. Who was this version of Mom? The one who wasn’t scolding them or threatening to throw away their scattered Lego creations? They quickly shrugged it off and proceeded to create more chaos.

For the entire weekend, I didn’t nag them to clean. I embraced the mess and accepted the consequences. If they wanted to build a Nerf fortress in the living room, fine by me. I settled into my couch with a warm cup of tea and indulged in a marathon of “Fixer Upper,” letting them do as they pleased.

So what happened? It was surprisingly delightful. The kids enjoyed their freedom, playing together, constructing forts, and engaging in Nerf battles, all without the looming presence of a nagging parent reminding them to avoid the mess.

By the end of the weekend, I was curious: how chaotic was my home? To my surprise, it looked remarkably like it usually did. When Sunday night rolled around and I felt recharged, we all pitched in to tidy up. The Legos were returned to their container, the Nerf guns were stored away, and all snack remnants were either cleaned or discarded. Nothing was irreparably damaged, and for those two days, I had given them a break from my usual reminders (though, let’s be real, I’m still me).

By Monday morning, we resumed our usual routine, which includes me reminding them about backpacks and messy glue sticks. But I’m seriously considering another weekend off soon. If you feel you need one too, take it! Your well-being matters.

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Summary

Taking a break from the daily cleaning routine allowed me to recharge and let my kids enjoy their freedom. Surprisingly, the mess didn’t get out of hand, and we all worked together to tidy up afterward. It taught me that sometimes stepping back can lead to a more harmonious home environment.