In the quiet of a night when your older sibling was just a baby, I found myself struggling with a stroller during a walk. Your father offered to take over, but a wave of uncertainty washed over me. Letting go felt risky, as I had just received the diagnosis that would change everything: I have multiple sclerosis (MS). At that moment, I was in the midst of a prolonged attack that had left me feeling vulnerable.
As we sat in the doctor’s office, the gravity of my condition settled in. “This is severe,” I thought, reflecting on the impact it could have on our future. Memories of a family friend who relied on a wheelchair loomed large in my mind, making me question the life I envisioned for us. The neurologist’s words echoed painfully: “Getting pregnant right now would be terrible for your prognosis.” It felt as if my dreams of motherhood were slipping away.
However, after diving deep into research and consulting with my new healthcare team, my perspective has shifted. Over the past year and a half, I have made significant strides in my health. With the encouragement of my neurologist and OB, I am thrilled to carry you within me, igniting a sense of hope for our journey ahead.
We are entering a world filled with uncertainties. MS’s progression is unpredictable; I might face challenges such as vision loss or mobility issues. Yet, I believe these experiences will foster in you a profound sense of empathy and resilience—qualities that are born from overcoming adversity.
Life is inherently uncertain for everyone; we are just more attuned to it. I’ve learned to focus on what we can control, and I’m confident that your older sibling will guide you through life with a blend of wisdom and youthful enthusiasm. Your father, with his superhuman strength and humor, stands steadfast by my side. Together, we will navigate whatever comes our way with determination and joy.
In embracing life, we must seize opportunities while we can. Though running is not my passion, I trained for a 5K to experience it while I still have the ability. I understand that some parents might not consider the implications of standing for photos, but I am committed to living fully in the present. This may mean early morning swims or helping our elderly neighbor with their lawn, because when you can help, you should.
In addition, we must strive for a cause and a cure for MS. When I received my diagnosis in 2016, the causes of this disease were largely unknown. It’s believed to be a mix of genetic, environmental, and possibly viral factors. The uncertainty is daunting, and I hope that advances in research will soon clarify more about MS and ultimately prevent you from experiencing it.
While hope is valuable, it’s not enough by itself. My sister once wisely remarked, “Hope is not a strategy.” We need to take action—raising funds for research, advocating for awareness, and sharing how MS affects our lives. I look forward to seeing you and your sibling become advocates in this fight. We need champions like you on our side.
As you grow and eventually read this, my greatest wish is that MS has had little effect on your life. If that’s not the case, please know how deeply you are loved and how inspired I am to be your mother. You and your sibling motivate me to stay healthy, and together, as a resilient and positive family, we will face whatever comes our way. MS does not define me, and I will do everything in my power to ensure it doesn’t define your life either. We will navigate this journey together. I love you unconditionally, every single day.
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In summary, navigating life with multiple sclerosis while preparing for motherhood is a journey filled with challenges and hope. Embracing uncertainty, living fully, advocating for change, and nurturing love will guide us through this path.