Inappropriate language can feel shocking, especially coming from a child. My son, Leo, recently began using the word “f*ck” after he got upset.
The First Incident
The first incident occurred during dinner. My father was present, as usual, while I prepared a meal of pasta. My daughter, Mia, mentioned to her older brother, Ethan, “Leo got his card flipped today,” a significant event for him, often leading to a call from the teacher. Suddenly, Leo shouted, “You f*cker, Tattletale!”
My father exclaimed, “Whoa!” while Mia and Ethan burst into laughter. From the kitchen, I yelled, “What did you just say?” Leo remained silent, his face reddening, teeth clenched, and eyes brimming with tears. I ordered him to his room, instructing him to remain there until he was ready to apologize. The door slammed shut, followed by a frustrated yell from Leo: “You’re all f*ckers!”
The Second Incident
The next incident happened after school when Mia dashed in and devoured the last donut. From my office, I heard Leo mutter, “You f*cker.” I couldn’t let this slide, so I sent him to his room again, trailing behind him. I explained, “Using that kind of language isn’t allowed here.”
He countered with, “Ethan says it. Mia says it.” I mentioned I hadn’t heard them use such language. Then he hit me with, “Mommy, you use it.”
Caught off guard, I realized he was right. I often pepper my speech with “f*ck,” especially when I’m frustrated. For example, when I spill something or am stuck in traffic, it escapes my lips easily.
A New Approach
Recently, I’ve chosen a different approach. Instead of sending Leo to his room for using the f-word, I simply raise my eyebrows and shake my head at him—an expression he often gives me. It’s a moment of connection rather than punishment.
Further Reading
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Conclusion
In summary, my perspective on my child’s use of profanity has shifted from punishment to understanding. Recognizing that I also use such language allows for a more empathetic approach to parenting.