Author: Sarah T. Greene
Updated: July 16, 2020
Originally Published: January 13, 2018
In the age of constant connectivity, many parents grapple with the question of whether their middle schoolers truly need smartphones. My eldest, Ethan, received his first cell phone at age 13, which was a simple flip phone. This decision was driven by a concerning incident when he was caught in a lightning storm while out golfing alone. The flip phone served its purpose well, and his usage was limited to communicating with his parents, which made it easy to manage. I felt no anxiety about him having that device; it was simply a phone.
Fast forward to today, and smartphones have evolved into powerful mini-computers, packed with a multitude of apps that extend far beyond making calls. They have become integral to our children’s daily lives, serving as platforms for social interaction, entertainment, and education.
Consider the lyrics from a popular song featured in Apple’s latest iPhone X advertisement that suggests a smartphone can be a child’s best friend. This $1,000 device, designed for personal use, has become a source of fascination for many kids.
By the time my second child, Lucas, turned 15 and began driving, it was clear that flip phones were rare. The convenience of a smartphone, with its array of apps for safe driving and schoolwork, made it a logical choice. I felt confident in his maturity regarding social media and potential pitfalls like cyberbullying; he navigated this challenging landscape without significant issues. Now at 18, he has successfully avoided many of the hazards that come with smartphone use during adolescence.
However, I’ve decided that my youngest son, Noah, who just turned 14, will wait until he is 16 to get a smartphone. Despite his persistent pleas, claiming he is the only eighth grader without a phone, I have repeatedly said “no.” I allow him to use my phone at home, which lets me monitor his social media activity. Yet, he continues to insist he is ready for the responsibility, which raises the question: is he truly prepared?
Recent discussions among tech investors have shed light on the potential dangers of smartphone addiction among youth. In a compelling letter to Apple, they highlighted the urgent need for tools to help parents manage their children’s phone use and the negative impacts of overexposure on mental well-being. This concern is echoed by pediatricians and educators who view the smartphone as a growing public health crisis.
While Noah can keep asking for a phone, my answer remains the same: “no.” This simple response may make me unpopular, but it encourages him to engage in activities that promote personal fulfillment outside of digital interactions. Remember when children found joy in playing outside or reading a good book? I do, and I believe it’s time to revive that spirit.
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Summary
Smartphones may seem like a necessity for today’s youth, but allowing middle schoolers to have them can lead to potential risks. As parents, it’s crucial to weigh the benefits against the dangers of smartphone use and to foster healthy, offline lifestyles for our children.