I have three siblings who struggle with depression, each facing their unique challenges—from bipolar disorder to high-functioning anxiety and depression. Their symptoms began to manifest during their teenage years, a time when my parents were unsure of what was happening. They mistakenly attributed their behaviors to typical teenage mood swings. Thankfully, with the right medications, my sisters are now able to thrive and lead fulfilling lives.
I’ve seen the weight of guilt my sisters carry. I’ve listened to their endless questions of “why?” and watched their valiant attempts to cope without medication, only to see how much it has cost them over the years. I recall my mother, sitting in her rocking chair, tears in her eyes as she recounted the harrowing experience of rushing my eldest sister to the emergency room due to suicidal thoughts brought on by her medication. It was heartbreaking to witness her helplessness.
My younger sister has struggled significantly; there are days when she can barely get out of bed, feeling as if she’s drowning. Both my parents battled mental illness too, but they only recognized it later in life. Now, with therapy and medication, they are transformed—happier and more engaged than ever before. It’s remarkable how much has changed in the conversation around mental health over the years.
My grandmother once shared that all six of her children were on antidepressants. She suffered from postpartum depression but noted, “Back in my day, we called it the melancholy, and you just endured it in silence.” She often spoke of her father’s struggles with depression, how he would withdraw and disappear for long stretches, leaving his family in the dark.
I feel an overwhelming desire to combat depression. It devastates those I care about, yet I’m grateful they have found the courage to seek help. However, I remember a time when they did not feel safe to do so. The path to understanding depression can be a lonely one, filled with self-doubt and relentless questioning. The initial symptoms often lead to a cycle of self-blame, making it challenging to recognize the need for help.
Interestingly, depression has spared me so far, but I’m deeply concerned about my children. My teenage son, Jake, has grown more withdrawn since entering puberty, coinciding with the onset of my sisters’ struggles. Now in their 30s and 40s, they continue to grapple with it, leaving me constantly vigilant for any signs of distress in my son.
I often wonder if Jake is experiencing typical teenage angst or if it’s something more serious. I make it a point to communicate with him regularly, checking in on his feelings, but I can’t help but worry about crossing the line into being overly intrusive. The fear of one day sitting in a similar position as my mother, discussing a crisis involving my child, sends chills down my spine.
Research indicates that depression can be hereditary. While I have managed to evade it for reasons unknown, I have been surrounded by its impact for most of my life. I feel equipped to identify warning signs and ask the right questions, but what if I misinterpret them? The weight of my concern for my children is heavy, especially considering the generational stigma surrounding mental health. However, I remain hopeful about the progress we’ve made in addressing mental health issues and the support available today.
I’m determined to instill in my children that there’s no shame in experiencing depression, whether personally or within their circle. I will continue to maintain open lines of communication, checking in regularly, even if everything appears fine on the surface. I’d rather be the mother who’s perceived as overly concerned than one who dismisses a serious issue as mere teenage behavior, only to regret it later.
If you or someone you know is struggling with depression, please reach out for help. Resources are available, including the Lifeline, which can provide essential support.
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Summary:
The author shares her concerns about family depression, rooted in her experience with siblings and parents who have struggled with mental health issues. While she has been spared from depression herself, she remains vigilant about her children’s emotional well-being, recognizing the hereditary nature of mental illness. She emphasizes the importance of open communication and the need to address mental health without shame.