By: Mia Thompson
I breastfed my child for three and a half years. Yes, that’s right. And honestly, I’m not concerned about anyone’s opinions on the matter. The transition away from nursing was something I anticipated would be challenging, but what I didn’t expect was my little one’s continued desire for closeness, particularly wanting to touch my breasts. It makes sense; they provided comfort for a long time. However, that doesn’t make it any less overwhelming. A significant factor in my decision to wean was the feeling of being “touched out.”
I had never planned on nursing a toddler, so I was anxious about the weaning process. To my surprise, it went more smoothly than expected, leading me to believe that he was more prepared for it than I had assumed. Yet, even after weaning, he wasn’t ready to sever his attachment to my breasts.
While his intentions are innocent, I sometimes need space and don’t want him to touch me. This is a common experience for many mothers who have recently weaned their toddlers. Dr. Lisa Greene, a child development expert, notes that it’s typical for toddlers to seek physical comfort from their mothers, including touching their breasts, for up to a year after weaning.
My son would often cuddle up to my chest first thing in the morning, as that was when he felt most secure. Even though we no longer nurse, he occasionally snuggles against my chest while sleeping, as we still co-sleep. He needs reassurance that I’m there, and my breasts remain a source of comfort for him.
As his mother, I have the right to set boundaries. Weaning has provided a valuable opportunity to teach him about body autonomy. I explain, “You know how you sometimes don’t like it when I touch you? Well, right now, I don’t want you to touch me, either.” He has come to understand and respect that, even if it sometimes makes him upset.
Wearing a bra has also helped; if he can’t see my breasts, he’s less likely to reach for them. Dr. Greene emphasizes that we often overlook the emotional impact of weaning on toddlers, which can be quite significant. When viewed through this lens, it becomes clearer why children may seek out the comfort they once derived from nursing. Occasionally, my son will come over, lay his head on my chest, and say, “I love you, Mommy.” It’s almost as if he’s expressing gratitude for the comfort that nursing once provided.
Interestingly, since we stopped nursing, he has become more affectionate in different ways. For instance, when he cut his finger recently, he curled up in my lap to watch a movie until he felt better. Previously, that would have been a nursing moment, and I would have felt overwhelmed rather than simply enjoying the quiet time together.
It’s important to note that this post-weaning attachment isn’t permanent. Dr. Greene mentions that while it generally lasts around a year, every child is different. The initial months can be quite intense, as I’ve experienced, but it will likely diminish over time. It’s essential to acknowledge your child’s needs while also establishing boundaries that work for you. Rest assured, this phase of obsession will eventually pass.
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In summary, weaning my toddler has been an enlightening journey filled with both challenges and growth. While the transition away from nursing was quicker than anticipated, the emotional ties lingered longer than expected. It’s crucial to set boundaries while recognizing their need for closeness, as this stage is a natural part of development.