As you settle into your favorite café for another monthly lunch with your friend Emma, she rushes over, breathless with excitement. “I’m so sorry for being late,” she exclaims. “Max just came back from his private cello lesson. He’s going to nationals next week!”
“Wow! I didn’t even know he played the cello,” you respond, raising an eyebrow. “Isn’t soccer more his speed?”
Emma laughs, nodding in agreement. “Absolutely! He’s into soccer, football, and I think he’s even dabbled in robotics.” She pauses, a contemplative look crossing her face. “It’s kind of funny to say, but he seems to excel at everything he tries. Like, it’s almost as if everything is his thing.”
As she orders her drink, you lean back in your chair, a smile on your face, but you can’t shake the nagging thought: how can one child be so incredibly talented? Your mind drifts to your own child, who has recently quit three different activities, citing a lack of interest or talent.
The lunch conversation continues, but anxiety gnaws at you. “What if my child never finds their passion? When will they discover their ‘thing’?” This question lingers in your mind long after lunch has ended.
If we’re truly honest, many parents grapple with similar concerns. I know I have—sometimes even contemplating my children’s potential talents before they were old enough to even know what a sport or musical instrument was. We all hope our children will shine in some area, and it feels like our responsibility to help them uncover that talent.
Thus begins the cycle: we encourage them to choose an activity, and they do. We observe their enthusiasm growing, so we invest time and money into this new hobby. As we witness their progress, we secretly wonder if this could be the path that lands them on a talent show or secures a scholarship to their dream college. But then, we face the crushing blow when they decide they no longer wish to pursue piano.
We move on to the next activity, and the pattern repeats. This time, they genuinely enjoy karate, yet they seem to lack any natural ability. You watch as they struggle while other kids excel, but their happiness keeps you engaged.
Despite knowing that skills shouldn’t define their worth, we feel an unrelenting pressure—both from society and within ourselves—about the need for our children to excel. “Is happiness alone enough?” We wish we could answer yes without the weight of comparison looming over us, especially when we see other children thriving in their extracurricular activities.
The reality is stark: by age five, swimming isn’t just about being able to float; it’s about mastering various strokes. Competitive cheerleading demands back tucks before kids can even read. Music has evolved into a race for social media fame, where having a YouTube channel with thousands of followers seems like a standard expectation.
While I might be exaggerating, some of these pressures are all too real. When we see exceptional kids, it can lead us to question why our child isn’t measuring up, prompting us to doubt our parenting choices.
However, it’s essential to remember that most of us are, in fact, quite ordinary—and that’s perfectly okay.
The truth is, the majority of us don’t have childhood accolades like “National Chess Champion” or “Cello Prodigy.” For those who might have, many of us don’t even recognize those achievements in our adult selves. I didn’t know my neighbor had been drafted into the minor leagues until he played baseball with my son.
Reflecting on my own childhood, I wasn’t a superstar in any single area. I explored various activities, from Girl Scouts to gymnastics to piano and more. I didn’t feel unfulfilled; instead, I cherish memories filled with joy and play, free from the pressures of being perfect. I’m grateful my parents let me explore without the burden of expectation.
So, what if your child isn’t exceptional at anything? What if they’re just average or ordinary across the board? My answer is simple: that’s perfectly fine. Because extraordinary moments can be found within the most ordinary lives.
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Summary:
Being ordinary is not just acceptable; it’s a shared experience among many. Amid the societal pressures to excel, we must remember that happiness and the simple joys of childhood are what truly matter. Letting our children explore their interests without the weight of expectations can lead to remarkable moments in their lives.