I often find myself surprised by the responses I receive from readers who commend me for sharing my story so openly. It’s amusing, really, because I wouldn’t label myself as “vulnerable.” To me, vulnerability implies revealing your emotional side—like those times when you sob uncontrollably on the bathroom floor, hoping no one hears you. I keep that side of me safely tucked away, almost like I’m sneaking contraband through customs.
Being told that I’m vulnerable feels alien to me. I’d rather describe myself as honest—sometimes painfully so. Being truthful comes easily to me, which is admirable until you share something someone would rather not hear or recount an experience you think is universal, only to realize you’re alone in that struggle. Yet, embracing my truth has liberated me from burdens that felt unbearable.
Raising a child with special needs can feel isolating until you begin to let others into your life. It’s a chaotic experience, and while they may not fully grasp it, honesty can offer them a chance to understand. Opting for a simpler lifestyle has attracted its fair share of judgment and unsolicited advice, but sharing our daily reality has turned some skeptics into supporters, or at least into those willing to “agree to disagree.”
Now, I’m about to delve into the most raw and challenging aspect of my life. This topic isn’t easy for me; in fact, it’s quite the opposite. But if there’s one lesson I’ve learned in my 35 years of awkward and hilarious experiences, it’s that when something weighs heavily on my heart, I must push through my fears. I trust that the purpose behind it is greater than my hesitations.
So, here we go—this is 300.
I haven’t always weighed what I do now. As I stand on the scale in my aunt and uncle’s bathroom, the reading is 300 pounds—304.1 to be precise. I’ve hesitated to share this for weeks, battling my own insecurities. It feels contradictory, especially since I frequently encourage my high school students to embrace their imperfections and celebrate themselves at every stage. I genuinely believe in my husband’s love for me and acknowledge my body’s strength in bringing two children into the world.
Yet, I had to confront the truth: hiding behind humor and avoiding my weight wouldn’t change the reality. I’m not seeking pity or judgment, but perhaps this raw honesty—at its most uncomfortable level—might resonate with someone else. We need to give a face to obesity and educate ourselves and our children about people’s struggles. We teach empathy for various social issues, yet it remains acceptable to gawk at someone who is overweight. If my story can foster understanding, then maybe we can start to see that many of us grappling with weight issues are merely survivors of life’s harsh realities.
This is 300.
It’s crucial to recognize that everyone’s battle is unique. My journey with weight began around the fourth grade. Back then, before social media, it was easy to remain blissfully unaware of how others perceived me. It wasn’t until sixth grade that I learned a boy in my class had been paid to ask me out, only to give me a pack of SlimFast on Valentine’s Day. Not my best moment.
To be honest, it didn’t devastate me. I wasn’t like most girls captivated by boys or trends. I was more focused on goals, jobs, and volunteering. Later, I realized I must have known I didn’t fit the conventional mold when, in fifth grade, I asked my cheerleader friend to replace my photo in a fan letter to my childhood crush, Jonathan Taylor Thomas. I must have suspected I wouldn’t stand a chance with my own picture.
As I moved through high school and college, I tried every diet, fad, and weight-loss scheme imaginable. None worked. Ironically, when I look back at those photos now, I’d give anything to look like I did back then. But at the time, I felt like a cow in social situations, masking my insecurities with humor and confidence. I hid behind layers of clothing, trying to convince others that my body was merely a costume.
I thrived in sports and was often the “guys’ girl.” I played football and was a college soccer goalie, constantly seeking belonging. I walked down the aisle at 175 pounds, surprising many who attended my wedding. But society is often oblivious to the reality of body weight and composition.
In the years following my wedding, I gained weight—50 pounds in the first year of marriage and an additional 80 during my first pregnancy. This became my greatest regret. The journey back from maternity weight and two challenging childbirths has not been what I anticipated. Seriously, how long can you wear maternity clothes after giving birth? Will anyone notice if I show up to my daughter’s college graduation in a nursing bra?
This is 300.
What many fail to understand is the daily thought process that comes with being overweight. It goes beyond the obvious, like needing seatbelt extenders on planes. Simple decisions become complex. When we decided to downsize to a smaller home, I worried about fitting through doorways and navigating ladders. Surprisingly, we made it work.
In public spaces, I constantly size up seating options, wondering if I’ll fit comfortably or if I’ll be met with judgment. I avoid buffets, fearing the stares as I load my plate, even if my portions are modest.
This is 300.
At home, I manage my day-to-day with baby powder to prevent discomfort. My husband once asked if I got deodorant on my pants, and I fibbed—baby powder was my secret.
This is 300.
When I see fit individuals at the park with their kids, I feel their gazes heavy with judgment. Why isn’t she jogging instead of walking? Why is she wearing that tank top? Their innocent looks feel like a guilty verdict weighing on me.
Describing my body as a prison would be an understatement. It doesn’t fully capture the daily struggle I face. I yearn for the freedom to run and play, yet my aching joints and insecurities hold me back. If you haven’t lived this experience, it’s impossible to understand the pain we endure.
This is 300.
When I hear weight-loss success stories that begin with a moment of realization—like when a child called them fat or when they faced public ridicule—I smile, wishing them well. However, I can’t help but feel that I could never reach that level of success. I’ve experienced those moments, yet here I am.
Perhaps I self-sabotage because I don’t believe I deserve to succeed. I’ve encountered all these scenarios, yet I remain on this journey.
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In conclusion, my journey is about more than just a number on a scale; it’s about embracing who I am and advocating for understanding around weight and health.