Children can be unkind. This isn’t just a rumor. From the dawn of time, kids have dished out wedgies, tossed “geeks” into lockers, and shed tears over petty rivalries. For reasons unknown, humans often have a penchant for causing each other pain. They gossip, bicker, and bully, and unfortunately, this behavior doesn’t magically disappear in adulthood. In fact, some of the most inconsiderate individuals can be found sipping lattes at the local café in their yoga pants.
Naturally, none of us aspire to raise rude children. Nobody brings a little one into the world hoping they’ll grow into self-absorbed individuals. As parents, we strive to instill values rooted in kindness and empathy. We teach them the golden rule, to avoid gossip and fighting, and to understand how their actions impact others.
However, how often do we address the subtle harm of passive exclusion? The pain inflicted on others simply through inaction? Perhaps you’ve experienced the sting of being overlooked by a group of kids on the playground. Those who turn away from the new parent or child in town can hurt just as deeply as any overt bully. This is why our mission as parents must extend beyond just preventing bullying; we need to foster includers.
Consider the current state of society: bullies no longer lurk in the shadows; they proudly display their banners of intolerance. From playgrounds to college campuses—and even the White House—there is a glaring absence of compassion. I don’t know about you, but I want my children to challenge this trend. So, how do we combat the instinct to exclude? How do we nurture the includers our world desperately needs?
1. Be a Role Model for Inclusivity.
This is one of those situations where “do as I say, not as I do” simply doesn’t cut it. If you ridicule other adults in front of your children, they will take note. When parents disparage differences—be they racial, religious, or personal—children are likely to mirror that behavior. It’s crucial to have age-appropriate discussions about societal issues, acknowledging differences and their significance. Be the includer you wish to see in the world.
2. Promote Kindness Whenever Possible.
If you notice your child being socially inclusive, express your pride. Be specific in your praise and highlight the emotions involved. “Alex, I was so happy to see you invite Michelle to join your game. I bet that made her heart feel wonderful! I love when you include others.” By celebrating acts of kindness and discussing their emotional rewards (like making Michelle happy), you’re laying the foundation for empathy.
3. Cultivate Empathy.
There will come a day when your child approaches you, tears streaming down their face. You may search for a physical injury, only to find that the pain lies in their heart—hurt by a peer’s exclusion. Your first instinct might be to confront that child, but that’s not the lesson to share in that moment. Instead, comfort your child, and once they’ve calmed down, ask, “Remember how sad you felt when Jake didn’t let you play? That’s why we include everyone; we don’t want anyone to feel left out.” Teaching empathy is essential, as emotional intelligence doesn’t come naturally to children. Show them how to empathize with others.
4. Stand Up Against Injustice.
Regrettably, we live in a world where inclusivity is often lacking. A quick glance at the news reveals the heartbreaking consequences of excluders growing into adulthood. Our children are observing our responses to discrimination. If we remain silent in the face of injustice, what message are we sending about inclusivity? We must be advocates for change, pushing back against hate every day. It is vital to be as passionate about justice as we are about kindness. Teach our children that being an includer means living with open arms, ready to embrace all.
This world can be chaotic. There are no easy answers to the challenges we face today, but there is hope for future generations: Let’s reject exclusivity and hatred. Together, let’s raise includers, and perhaps the world will evolve one compassionate, inclusive, and justice-seeking individual at a time.
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Summary
In a world where exclusion is prevalent, it’s crucial for parents to raise children who embrace inclusivity. By modeling kind behavior, encouraging empathy, and standing against injustice, we can cultivate a generation of includers who challenge societal norms and promote compassion.