It’s 4:30 p.m. and my partner, Alex, hasn’t returned home. There’s been no call, no text, and no warning of a late day. As a high school teacher, he typically walks through the door around 3:45 p.m.
My mind begins to race. Logically, I know that a parent or student may have kept him busy. But logic doesn’t hold much sway in moments like these. Instead, my imagination runs wild. What if he’s trapped in a chaotic accident somewhere? Why did he list his college friend as an emergency contact instead of me?
I reassure myself that his mother would reach out if something went wrong. But then the “what ifs” spiral out of control. What if his phone is too damaged for anyone to call? What if he’s in a hospital, and I’m not even informed? How would I manage without him? We have three children depending on us. Sure, we have life insurance, but is it enough? Could I get the house ready for a funeral in time?
I glance around, feeling the weight of despair mixed with panic. How could I possibly hold down a job under these circumstances? I can’t even manage to cook dinner. My heart races, and my hands tremble. I turn on a mindless TV show for the kids and start calling him, over and over. No answer. The panic escalates. Just as I’m about to call local hospitals, my phone rings.
“I had a parent issue,” he explains, knowing full well the storm of anxiety I’ve just weathered. “I’m sorry.”
“Just text me next time,” I respond through clenched teeth, my fear morphing into irritation. “I thought you were dead on the side of the road.”
The Unspoken Reality of Anxiety
This is the unspoken reality of anxiety. We often laugh about “overly cautious” parents, but the truth is that some of us carry an anxiety disorder that manifests in these intense fears. We’re constantly scanning for threats—whether to ourselves or our loved ones.
Anxiety means that even mundane experiences can spiral into overwhelming fears. For example, after overeating cheesecake, rather than acknowledging that I simply ate too much, my anxious mind jumps to the conclusion that I must be coming down with a stomach bug. I find myself worrying about every possible scenario and praying my kids don’t catch it too.
Every headache? An impending migraine or worse. Each minor scrape? A potential infection. This is the reality of life with heightened anxiety. We often hide it, worried about being labeled as “overreacting.” But if you know someone with an anxiety disorder, chances are they are grappling with some version of this constant fear of impending doom.
Anxiety and Parenting
And when it comes to our kids? The anxiety multiplies. If they fall, my immediate thought is that they’ve broken something. If they scrape their knee, I assume a trip to the ER is inevitable. The notion that they might encounter dangers like brain-eating amoebas in warm water haunts me, despite the rarity of such occurrences.
Long-term health concerns? They open a can of worms. I remember studies linking hot dog consumption to leukemia, which plagues my mind each time I serve them. The same goes for fast food and screen time, both of which I fear will negatively impact my children’s futures. Honestly, anxious parents could use a filter for these overwhelming worries.
Finding Hope
But there’s hope. I’ve made strides in managing my anxiety, thanks in part to medication. I no longer feel compelled to issue frantic pleas each time Alex leaves the house.
Yet, the pang of fear still lingers. Just this morning, as he left, I thought, “What if I never see him again?” That thought lingers throughout my day, urging me to cherish every moment and express my love deeply.
So to my fellow warriors in anxiety, I see you. I understand your fears about health and mortality—the thoughts that lead you to search for life insurance policies at odd hours. Anxiety can take many forms, but the fear of illness or loss is one of the heaviest burdens.
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Conclusion
In summary, the grip of anxiety can distort our perceptions of everyday life, but acknowledging it and seeking help can lead us to a path of understanding and healing.