Here I am in a dress that society might say I shouldn’t be wearing. This isn’t the first time I’ve donned it, and it certainly won’t be the last. Honestly, I’m aware it may not be the most flattering fit, but that’s not what I seek to hear. I don’t want compliments like, “You look amazing!” or “Way to go!” Instead, I want you to understand why I choose to wear a dress that some might deem inappropriate for me.
This snapshot was taken after I had enjoyed a glass and a half of prosecco during a girls’ trip with my best friend, as we prepared for a lovely dinner. Some might say I appear a bit pregnant in it, given that little bump in front. And, sure enough, I do look a tad pregnant. But that’s okay! Once upon a time, I carried two little ones in that very area, but now it’s just where I store my cheeseburgers and a nice glass of sauvignon blanc.
I bought this dress for a getaway with my partner. When I slipped it on, I knew it wasn’t designed for my 5-foot-2, 160-pound frame, but I felt fantastic in it. I can’t explain why; I just did. Form-fitting styles aren’t my usual go-to, but I desired this dress, so I purchased it. And I felt proud of that decision.
The truth is, I’m currently at my heaviest, aside from my pregnancy days. Another truth is that I have always battled with weight, and if you’ve faced similar struggles, you understand it’s more than just a physical battle. It’s about self-perception and the internal dialogue we maintain. After decades of telling myself I shouldn’t wear the things I want to, I’ve decided to change the narrative. I’m choosing kindness towards myself.
As a work-from-home mom, I have the flexibility to create my own schedule. I could dedicate hours each day to exercise or even run to Manhattan if I really wanted to. But honestly, my focus lies elsewhere. Right now, I’m dedicated to keeping my life organized, nurturing loving children, fostering healthy friendships, and enjoying a happy marriage.
For far too long, I’ve stood before the mirror, comparing my appearance to some imagined ideal. It’s utterly draining. Now, in a world filled with challenges, I’m hitting that red “Decline” button when self-doubt attempts to creep in. I refuse to engage anymore. I want to embrace self-love, pure and simple.
I’m not suggesting I’ll abandon exercise altogether; I’ll still work out occasionally because I value a healthy body. However, I’m taking a break from self-criticism. I’m muting the negative self-talk because, truthfully, I care much more about my own thoughts than those of others.
So, here’s my message: If I can wear a dress that I “shouldn’t” wear to a nice dinner with my partner or during a fun night out with my best friend because it makes me happy, then you absolutely can too. And if I’m brave enough to share this photo online for all to see, then you can certainly rock that dress you think you shouldn’t wear to a barbecue this weekend. If the hardest part is convincing yourself, remind yourself that life is too short to fret over what you shouldn’t wear.
For those navigating their own journeys, check out this post on at-home insemination kits for additional support and ideas, as well as this excellent resource on pregnancy and home insemination. And if you’re looking for inspiration for nursery decor, this is a great authority on that subject.
Summary:
Embracing the freedom to wear whatever makes you feel good is a powerful statement. After years of self-criticism and societal pressure, it’s time to choose kindness and self-acceptance over doubt. Whether it’s a form-fitting dress or any outfit that brings you joy, remember that life is too short to worry about the opinions of others. Wear what makes you happy and embrace your individuality, because you deserve it.