I was at a local store recently, gathering some essentials for my new place, when I hopped into an elevator with a mother pushing a stroller. As I glanced down, I noticed a couple of cases of beer tucked away in the stroller’s storage. When our eyes met, she smiled nervously and blurted out, “Oh my gosh, please don’t judge me!”
Her immediate concern struck me. I replied, “Not at all! If that’s what you enjoy, go for it!” We shared a laugh, bonding over the challenges of motherhood as we exited the elevator and went our separate ways.
But her reaction stayed with me: “Please don’t judge me.” It was a reminder of the pervasive judgment that mothers often face. In today’s world, especially for millennial moms, there’s a palpable fear of being criticized for every decision we make. With the rise of social media and online parenting groups, it feels like our every choice is scrutinized by strangers who know nothing about our lives.
Her child was only eight months old, and I could only imagine the pressure she felt. It’s a natural instinct to judge; after all, it helps us navigate the complexities of social interactions. But it’s essential to remember that a snap judgment shouldn’t be voiced without considering the other person’s feelings. So let’s all agree: don’t be that person.
What I didn’t get to tell her was that I’m in no position to judge anyone’s shopping choices. My own cart often contains mini M&M’s to keep my little one entertained, or even ice cream sandwiches for dinner when he refuses anything else. And yes, after he’s asleep, I might indulge in a few Hot Tamales — because some days are just tough as a single parent.
I’m open about my parenting flaws and know how quickly judgment can come from others. I don’t like being judged, so I would never do that to another mom, especially over something as harmless as buying beer. I mean, it was a summer weekend! If I see someone with beer, my first thought is usually that they’re gearing up for a barbecue.
If she had peeked into my cart, she might not have felt so bad. It’s often filled with junk food like potato chips, fruit snacks, and soda — my guilty pleasure. Sure, people might raise eyebrows at my choices, but that’s why self-checkout exists. Let’s focus on our own carts, shall we?
As mothers, we have far more pressing concerns: How do I keep this kid healthy? Can we afford college? Will my child become a Tea Partier? Worrying about how much beer you bought should be the least of your concerns. Trust me, the mom with the toddler throwing a tantrum over a toy is probably not judging you — that’s me!
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In summary, let’s support one another rather than judge. Shopping carts don’t define our parenting abilities, and every mom is navigating her own challenges. We all have our battles, so let’s be kind and understanding, not critical.