In the heart of a home, a young woman stands in the kitchen, her hair disheveled, shifting nervously from foot to foot. She’s grappling with an unfathomable loss; her brother succumbed to an overdose the night before. As a close friend of her mother, I’ve found my way into this space, driven by a surge of compassion to restock the fridge and tidy up, seeking a semblance of control in a landscape of grief.
“I don’t even know how to make lasagna,” she admits, eyeing the pan I’m placing into the freezer.
“That’s alright, dear. I can teach you,” I respond, starting to explain how to preheat the oven.
“I’m lost on what comes next,” she interjects, her voice tinged with despair.
I pause, taking in the broken spirit beside me. “Sometimes, love, when tragedy strikes, there are no clear next steps. We just have to sit together in the discomfort.”
Years have passed since I last saw this now 22-year-old. She was once a child who wandered in and out of my gatherings with her mother. Today, she’s a young woman searching for maternal comfort, and I’m here to provide it.
As I run my fingers through her hair and clasp her hand, we find solace in our stillness while the oven beeps.
My journey as a mother began 16 years ago when my son, Jake, entered the world after a grueling day of labor. Instead of the flood of love I anticipated, I felt only exhaustion. The connection didn’t come easily; each nurse who brought him to me felt like a stranger. It was a surreal experience, almost as if I were playing a part in a grand production.
In the quiet hours of the morning, while walking the hospital corridors with my IV pole, I heard a baby cry from the nursery. “That must be Jake,” I thought, then chuckled at my own absurdity. I had just met him, after all.
On my next lap, a nurse approached me, pushing a bassinet. “Mrs. Johnson! I was just bringing your little boy to you. Jake was crying, and I thought he might wake the others. He needs his mommy.”
And in that moment, my identity as a mother crystallized.
Years later, I sometimes reduce motherhood to mundane tasks: carpooling, filling out forms, and reminding my kids to get ready. I mistakenly equate it with the chaos of daily life—cleaning up after dinner, shouting reminders from downstairs. But that’s just surface noise.
True motherhood transcends grocery lists and school assignments. It manifests when a child needs unwavering love, a safe haven, or an advocate.
I’ve nurtured a 14-year-old boy who bravely revealed his truth to his deeply religious family, only to face rejection. He was afraid he had shattered his family and would never belong again. Jake brought him home for comfort, and I served him a hearty meal while reminding him that love from his parents still existed, even if lost in the details.
I’ve also cared for a 5-year-old girl, who had already endured more than many adults—three foster homes, a troubled past. She once locked my baby, Leo, in a box and hid him under the bed. While it was challenging to connect with her, I fought for her well-being, advocating for therapy and support. In that chapter of our lives, she was entrusted to my care, and I loved her fiercely.
But the act of loving like a mother isn’t solely mine to claim. Many others have stepped in to nurture my children—teachers, grandparents, and friends’ mothers who have welcomed them into their homes. I’m endlessly grateful for the love my children receive, even in ways I might not witness directly.
Maternal love knows no boundaries; it’s not limited by blood relations or legal documents. It’s not defined by adjectives or titles. Its essence is simply found in the unconditional love we give to those who need it most.
To love someone wholly, in the way they require at that moment, is to embody the spirit of motherhood, and the world is undeniably enriched by such connections.
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In summary, loving like a mother is an expansive, profound experience that transcends traditional definitions. It is about providing love where it’s needed most, nurturing connections that enrich lives, and recognizing the many forms of maternal love that exist in our world.