Panic attacks can be incredibly frightening and often poorly understood. These episodes can manifest in various ways, with some individuals hyperventilating and others retreating into silence. Given that over 40 million people in the U.S. live with anxiety disorders, it’s essential for friends and loved ones to comprehend what a panic attack entails and how they can provide support. We reached out to individuals in our mental health community to share their thoughts on what they wish their friends knew about these experiences. It’s important to remember that everyone’s journey with anxiety is unique, so having open discussions with friends about how to provide support is invaluable.
Here’s what they shared:
- “It can be hard to pinpoint what triggers my panic attacks, and I may not know how to stop them. Just holding my hand can be incredibly comforting.” – Jenna T.
- “Panic attacks drain me. After one, I often feel utterly exhausted for days or need to take a nap right after.” – Ella M.
- “Telling me to ‘just stop thinking about it’ doesn’t help. I wish people understood that feeling nauseous and terrified is not a choice.” – Liam H.
- “I often have to cancel plans at the last minute, and I prefer quiet gatherings over crowded events. Just know that staying in doesn’t mean I’m avoiding you; it means I’m prioritizing my mental health.” – Sara K.
- “Pointing out my symptoms doesn’t help. I’m already aware of how I look and feel during an attack.” – Max R.
- “Panic attacks can strike without warning. During these moments, I need space to breathe and reassure myself that I’m safe.” – Kayla S.
- “I appreciate it when friends are around but also understand when I need space. My mind races during an attack, and it’s hard to communicate.” – Ben D.
- “While hugs and holding hands are well-intentioned, they can make me feel trapped. I often just need someone to be present without physical contact.” – Lily P.
- “Every panic attack is terrifying, regardless of how many I’ve had before. Understanding this would help my friends be more empathetic.” – Chris L.
- “In a panic attack, I might not always show visible signs. I can appear quiet or distant, but inside, I’m struggling. It’s vital to recognize that I may look fine but feel overwhelmed.” – Zoe N.
- “When I’m in public and need to leave, I wish people would take my need for space seriously. It’s not about not enjoying the moment; I just feel like I need to escape.” – Ryan J.
- “My personality remains unchanged, even if I need to cancel plans or take time to recover. I’m still the same person.” – Mia A.
- “Panic attacks aren’t always dramatic. Sometimes they manifest as quiet moments of intense focus on breathing in a crowded space.” – Oliver Q.
- “During an attack, having my headphones or being in a quieter area can help. Simple reassurances, like reminding me that it will pass, are comforting.” – Emily T.
- “Panic attacks don’t define who I am. They’re just part of my experience, not the whole story.” – Noah W.
- “This isn’t simply a bad day. It’s a physical and emotional struggle that can be debilitating.” – Ava F.
- “Panic attacks often result from a combination of stressors, which can be overwhelming and exhausting.” – Samuel B.
- “I wish friends wouldn’t panic themselves or ask questions I can’t answer during an attack.” – Chloe R.
- “If I ask the same question repeatedly, it’s because I’m trying to ground myself. Please be patient with me.” – Jake M.
- “What I need most is not pity but understanding and support. I want to vent and cry without being judged.” – Grace L.
Understanding and compassion are crucial when supporting someone experiencing panic attacks. For more insights on managing stress and anxiety, visit Make a Mom. Additionally, for expert advice on overcoming challenges like panic attacks, check out Finding Light After IVF Setbacks: Jamie & Alex’s Journey and the CCRM IVF Blog, which offer valuable information on mental health and wellness.
In summary, understanding panic attacks is essential for fostering empathy and support. Friends should be patient, provide space, and recognize that these experiences can be overwhelming and exhausting.