As I type this, I find myself in a pair of worn-out pajama pants that are embarrassingly old and a T-shirt that has seen better days. My hair is hastily tied back, and I’m sporting glasses because there simply wasn’t time for contacts this morning. Yes, I even wore these pajama pants during the school drop-off, though I did manage to throw on a coat—so, maybe nobody noticed?
It’s still early, and I’m currently in what I like to call the “safe zone.” Most moms around me resemble my chaotic self—frazzled and rushing, putting everyone else’s needs before their own. But as the hours pass, the coffee will kick in, showers will happen, and perhaps I’ll even put on some makeup (maybe). The day moves forward, and tasks will be tackled.
But let’s be honest—there are days when motivation is hard to come by. Those days where yoga pants become your best friend, the dishes pile up, and you might binge-watch a few too many shows. While occasional lazy days can be beneficial for mental health, they shouldn’t become the norm.
When a lack of self-care turns into a routine, you might find yourself stuck in the “frumpy” zone. It’s a slippery slope, and even though the term sounds amusing, being “frumpy” is anything but funny. I’ve swung from being overly meticulous to neglecting myself completely and am now trying to find a balance.
Frumpiness manifests in various ways: it can mean neglecting personal hygiene, feeling guilty about not caring for yourself, and isolating yourself from others due to embarrassment. Initially, it seems like a practical choice driven by the needs of your family, but eventually, it can dull your spirit, leaving you feeling inadequate and unrecognizable.
I know this experience all too well. I’ve been caught in the frump trap, convincing myself that it was okay to let go for the sake of my family. But that mindset is misleading. It can lead you to a point where you ignore your own worth.
The antidote to frumpiness is self-care. Start with the basics—shower, put on some lotion, and maybe even wear something that isn’t elastic-waisted. It’s essential to do these things for your own well-being, not just for others. Even if it means leaving the laundry for another day, taking time for yourself is vital.
Reclaiming the habit of self-care isn’t just beneficial for you; it also positively impacts your family. They thrive when you’re happy and fulfilled, not just going through the motions. Small steps, like putting on mascara or finding an outfit you like, can make a world of difference.
Remember, mama, you deserve to feel good about yourself. Prioritize your needs; you’re worth it.
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In summary, it’s essential to recognize when self-care has taken a backseat to the demands of motherhood. Striking a balance between caring for your family and yourself will help you regain confidence and joy in your life.