As a veteran mom, I’ve come to appreciate the significance of a simple paper grocery bag filled with my child’s schoolwork. It’s a testament to years of sorting, reflecting, forgetting, and remembering. It’s a culmination of life experiences, including the challenges of floods or home repairs, all leading up to that moment when you finally organize it and pass it on to your child.
Though I haven’t yet reached the stage of handing off my own collection, I have experienced the other side. During a recent visit with my parents, my mother, in her usual fashion, presented me with cherished keepsakes from my childhood.
I recalled receiving these mementos before, yet the details had faded. I could vaguely remember a few high school notebooks and a copy of Plato’s Republic that elicited an immediate yawn. Once, I even found an old notebook that belonged to my sister, featuring a note with the name “Jessica” and my own misspelling of “jerk” beneath it.
This time, however, the contents of the bag struck a deeper chord. I discovered early samples of my handwriting that were nearly impossible to decipher. The pages were filled with reversals and misspellings, and I found myself sounding them out, hoping they would make sense aloud. Yet, amidst the chaos, a narrative began to unfold. There were notes from parent-teacher meetings, test scores reflecting both strengths and weaknesses, and a doctor’s card that plainly stated “learning disability.”
As I sifted through later projects, I noted my own painstakingly written sentences, slowly giving way to my mother’s tidy script that elaborated on my thoughts. Finally, I unearthed a five-page report on Vermont, complete with stenciled titles and pictures cut from old magazines, featuring several well-constructed sentences. One sentence particularly stood out: “Vermont is a place where horseback riding is very common, which is why I want to live there!”
By the end, I found myself surprisingly emotional, not about Vermont, but about the significant effort my mother invested in my education. I understood my journey: I was dyslexic. Despite scoring well on standardized tests, I often struggled to produce quality work due to my spelling issues and letter reversals. Yet here was the undeniable evidence of my mother’s dedication.
Now, as a parent, I understand the challenges of raising a child with learning differences. I empathize with the frustration they feel when distinguishing between “b” and “d,” the urge to help but also fear of hindering their progress. I’ve navigated the testing process and sought assistance from teachers and specialists. Currently, my children benefit from Individualized Education Programs (IEPs), but the journey remains challenging, even with support and an abundance of resources on learning differences and accommodations.
My admiration for my mother has grown exponentially. She advocated for me fiercely, even in the absence of formal support. Because of her efforts, I thrived academically, eventually attending New York University and building a career as a writer. Now, as I guide my children through their own educational challenges, I strive to be the same kind of advocate my mother was. I even have a box of their work that I hope to transform into neatly organized stacks one day, just like the grocery bag of my childhood.
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In summary, my journey from being a special needs child to a special needs parent has deepened my understanding and appreciation for my mother’s sacrifices. Her unwavering support has inspired me to advocate for my children and provide them with the tools to succeed in their educational paths.