I was venting to a colleague about my toddler’s sleep struggles. “She didn’t settle down until nearly 11 p.m. last night, and then she was up at 5 a.m. ready for cartoons!” I shared. His response? “Sounds like it’s time to drop her nap,” he suggested, raising his eyebrows in that way that tells me he thinks I need to be more assertive. Mark, my coworker, is a former military man in his 50s and has two older kids. He’s known for his tough-love approach, earning him the nickname “Sergeant Grump.”
“Sure, I’ll think about it,” I replied, though I had no intention of following that advice. I’ve heard similar suggestions before, even from friends who don’t have kids and can’t grasp the necessity of nap time. My own mother has voiced her frustrations too, perhaps forgetting just how challenging parenting can be.
The Love-Hate Relationship with Naptime
Let me be clear: I adore my daughter, Mia. She’s witty, inquisitive, and downright delightful most days, but let’s be honest—she can also be quite the handful. This isn’t a critique of her character but rather a testament to the trials of raising a two-year-old, which is undeniably one of the toughest yet most rewarding jobs imaginable.
If I want to turn Mia into a cranky, tantrum-throwing mess, all I have to do is take away her nap. I can’t say I’ve ever intentionally done that, but there have been moments when she’s resisted sleep, and it feels akin to inviting a hyperactive raccoon into our living room.
I refuse to subject myself—or my partner, Lisa—to that chaos. Not that she couldn’t manage it; she’s a warrior in her own right, having navigated three C-sections. It’s just that I wouldn’t wish a sleep-deprived toddler on anyone, and I certainly wouldn’t want to deprive Lisa of those precious one-to-two-hour breaks during the day.
The Paradox of Parenting
This is the paradox of parenting: you’re often caught in a bind where every decision seems wrong. Getting your child to sleep, especially when they fight it, can feel like climbing a mountain without a summit in sight.
I can already imagine a sleep consultant reading this, eager to jump into the comments with their “expert” advice, or someone who’s been lucky enough to have a child who sleeps like a log, or perhaps even someone trying to sell me essential oils. But if that’s you, just stop reading now; this piece isn’t meant for you.
Instead, I’m speaking to the parents who, like me, struggle to maintain a consistent sleep schedule for their little ones, often until they’re 3, 4, or even older. I have three kids, and all of them have had their share of sleep issues. They’ve each turned into moody little creatures when nap time gets skipped. I’ve gone to work bleary-eyed, often finding myself dozing off on the bus and waking up in unfamiliar places (yes, that’s a true story).
Lessons Learned
These sleepless nights have led to arguments between Lisa and me, where our exhaustion renders us incoherent. We’ve questioned our sanity during the day but learned to treasure those sacred hours of naptime.
Ultimately, what I’ve gleaned from raising my three children is that while I can attempt to control their sleep, the final decision lies with them. They will eventually figure it out, with or without my help. It’s a hard truth to swallow, but I encourage you to cherish those nap times. Savor every moment, and if you can, take a nap yourself. Stay strong, and know that, in time, they will likely learn to sleep soundly.
Further Reading
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In summary, navigating the world of toddler sleep can be an uphill battle, but it’s essential to hold on to those moments of quiet and rest. Remember, you’re not alone in this journey.