The recent wave of restrictive abortion laws at both state and federal levels, fueled by misleading portrayals of late-term abortions during last year’s presidential debates, has reignited the contentious pro-choice versus anti-choice argument. Multiple pieces of legislation, such as H.R.586—a federal “personhood” and “heartbeat” bill—and Texas’s S.B.25, which addresses “wrongful birth,” highlight the efforts to limit abortion access. But behind these debates are real families. We are part of that narrative. My husband and I are part of it. Our daughters are part of it.
After facing challenges in conceiving, we made the journey from Texas to the Czech Republic to utilize donor eggs. We successfully transferred our two embryos, and soon after, we learned we were expecting twin girls. The excitement was overwhelming as we began to bond with our daughters, who we named Sophia and Mia.
Anxiously, I awaited our 20-week scan in June, a crucial milestone that would reduce the risk of miscarriage. However, when the doctor finally entered the room after what felt like an eternity, he delivered devastating news. Mia had several critical health issues. The most alarming was an encephalocele, a rare neural tube defect that occurs in roughly 1 in 13,000 births, with only 20% of those diagnosed surviving to delivery. Additionally, she was lagging in growth, had a severe cleft lip and palate preventing her from swallowing amniotic fluid, and exhibited signs of fused fingers.
Our obstetrician informed us that if Mia made it to delivery, her suffering would be immense. He referred us to a specialist, the only one in town willing to discuss the unthinkable options we faced. The specialist called us that evening, wanting to conduct his own imaging but warned us that Mia’s prognosis was dire. That weekend was filled with tears and the desperate search for distractions.
The imaging confirmed our worst fears—Mia’s cerebellum was underdeveloped, and her amniotic sac was growing excessively large, posing a risk to Sophia. We decided to pursue an amniocentesis while also seeking a second opinion from another Houston specialist. Unfortunately, he corroborated the earlier findings, labeling Mia’s small head as microcephaly and struggling to locate her cerebellum. The cleft was alarmingly wide, and the encephalocele was open, with brain tissue leaking.
Throughout this heart-wrenching journey, our medical team provided guidance. Delivering Mia could result in an early birth, and if she survived, a series of surgeries would be required to address her conditions. The grim reality was that Mia would likely face severe disabilities, if not a vegetative state, and we were uncertain how an early delivery would impact Sophia’s health.
Our other option was to terminate one pregnancy. The loss of Mia would give us the chance for a healthy pregnancy with Sophia. On June 22, we saw Mia on the ultrasound one last time before the procedure. It was a moment filled with bittersweet emotions, as we watched her dance on the screen. The doctor then administered medication to Mia’s heart. When they checked for a heartbeat 30 minutes later, the silence was profound. When they confirmed Sophia’s heartbeat was strong, we wept for both the loss and the hope for our surviving daughter.
We carried Mia’s pain as our own. She passed away peacefully, enveloped in our love. This decision was not made lightly; it was rooted in the genuine care for both of our daughters. While we mourn Mia, we also cherish Sophia, understanding the importance of quality of life alongside the mere presence of life.
Our story is not just a statistic; it’s a testament to the complexities surrounding late-term abortion, a topic often debated without the nuance of real-life experiences. Many people claim to value children’s lives, yet they may not recognize that Mia’s existence would not have been a life worth living, while Sophia’s future hangs in the balance.
I urge you to consider the implications of the laws and policies you support. In Texas, we had a mere 12 days to make an agonizing decision. Delaying even one day would have forced us to seek compassionate care outside the state, adding to our grief. We sought multiple opinions and tests; our doctors had never encountered a combination of issues like Mia’s. It was a one in a million scenario.
I ask for empathy for families who endure such unimaginable burdens. Know that we did not enter this decision blindly or without deep contemplation.
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Summary
Emma Sinclair shares her heart-wrenching journey of discovering severe health complications in one of her twin daughters, Mia, leading to the decision to terminate her pregnancy to save her other daughter, Sophia. This deeply personal narrative highlights the complexities of late-term abortion and the struggles faced by families in dire situations, urging readers to reflect on the implications of restrictive abortion laws.