When my first child was welcomed into the world, I reveled in dressing her in adorable outfits and coordinating matching accessories. Fast forward to now, and I’m just grateful if my kids manage to wear clean clothes! While transitioning from one child to two was a significant adjustment—especially with coordinating nap times—going from two to three has fundamentally altered my parenting style.
What’s the reason behind this change? Quite simply, I no longer possess the same amount of time and energy as before. With so many little ones running around, I occasionally grapple with guilt about not being able to devote undivided attention to each of my children on a daily basis. However, the relaxed attitude I’ve adopted with my third child has been incredibly freeing.
Here are eight ways my parenting has evolved since becoming a mother of three:
- I encourage my older kids to “work things out” on their own. My 6-year-old son and 4-year-old daughter share a deep bond but also have their share of sibling squabbles. Before their little sister arrived, I would jump in immediately to mediate, often saying, “Let’s hear both sides” or, in moments of frustration, just telling them to “cut it out.” Now, I mostly let them figure it out themselves, which has surprisingly fostered their conflict-resolution skills.
- I’ve learned to embrace the chaos. Gone are the days when I felt the need to have a perfectly tidy house. With three kids, messes are inevitable, and I’ve come to accept that a little clutter is just part of our vibrant life.
- My expectations have lowered. I used to have high standards for how things should go—like elaborate family outings or picture-perfect birthdays. Now, I find joy in simpler moments, whether it’s a spontaneous picnic in the backyard or a quick trip to the park.
- I prioritize self-care. With three children, I realize that I must take time for myself to recharge. Whether it’s reading a book while they play or having a quiet cup of coffee, I’ve learned that taking care of myself helps me be a better parent.
- I’ve become more patient. With each child, I’ve learned that kids operate on their own timelines. I try to be more understanding of their needs and moods, which has resulted in a more harmonious household.
- I delegate tasks. The older kids are now responsible for small chores, like setting the table or helping with laundry. It not only lightens my load but also teaches them responsibility.
- I cherish the quiet moments. Amidst the chaos, I’ve come to appreciate the brief moments of calm—like cuddling on the couch or reading bedtime stories together. These are the memories I treasure most.
- I’m more open to asking for help. Whether it’s seeking advice from friends or accepting offers from family to help babysit, I’ve realized that I don’t have to do this alone.
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In summary, having a third child has not only reshaped my daily routine but also my perspective on parenting. I’ve learned to embrace imperfections, nurture independence in my older kids, and prioritize self-care, leading to a more balanced and joyful family life.