Dear Me, after welcoming your little one into the world:
First off, congratulations! You deserve all the high-fives and hugs. Anyone who says otherwise might just need a reality check — you’ve earned the right to defend your feelings. You might not realize it yet, but you also have every right to brush off comments about your postpartum body, whether they’re intended to be kind or not.
Because let’s be real, you look amazing. Right now, you may not see it; your belly feels a little floppy, and those pre-pregnancy jeans? Yeah, leave those at home. You feel unattractive, but trust me, you’re radiant. You still have that beautiful pregnancy glow and gorgeous hair, plus you’re carrying around a delightful baby. Embrace every moment and get in as many photos as you can. You’ll look back and appreciate it, I promise. Smile! Don’t channel your inner Wednesday Addams; you’ve just become a mom. Capture those joyful moments—even if they’re fleeting.
You may find yourself sobbing in the bathroom on New Year’s Eve, questioning everything about your life. That’s perfectly normal. It doesn’t mean you love your baby any less; it’s just a part of adjusting to the reality of caring for a tiny human who requires everything from you. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed. Let those feelings out; it’s better to cry now than when you have a toddler demanding your attention.
And speaking of demands, oh, the joys of postpartum bodily functions. You’re likely on pain medication due to some serious tearing. Those meds come with side effects that aren’t fun—like, um, constipation. Don’t wait to take the Colace; you’ll thank yourself later. Eat your fiber, embrace greens, and yes, coffee is back on the menu—so brew some! You’ve missed it during pregnancy, right? Now it’s time to make the most of it. Just make sure someone’s around to hold the baby when you finally get that long-awaited moment.
You’re going to experience a level of sleep deprivation that feels unreal. Newborns don’t care about day or night. You’ll be wide awake at 3 a.m., praying for a moment of silence. You might feel like your little one is broken because they won’t sleep; they’re not. This is just how babies are. Anyone who tells you otherwise is mistaken. If you need to pass off the baby to your partner, do it like it’s a game of hot potato.
Take advantage of any chance to rest. Let the house go a bit; it’s perfectly acceptable. You just brought a human into the world. Don’t exhaust yourself cleaning or trying to get back to your normal routine too quickly. You’ll wonder why you’re still bleeding weeks later if you don’t take it easy.
You’re doing some things right—like using that baby wrap! It lets you continue your life, like enjoying a night out with friends over oysters (just don’t forget a napkin for the little one). You’re also doing well with breastfeeding; however, stop worrying about who sees you. If someone feels uncomfortable, they can look away. If a place asks you to leave for nursing, stand your ground — you have every right to feed your baby.
Make sure you spend time just relaxing with your baby on your chest, catching up on shows or having someone bring you food. Remember, you’re the center of your baby’s universe. But don’t forget to pass the baby to your partner occasionally for a much-needed break. Balancing baby time with some “me time” is crucial.
Above all, you’re doing an incredible job, no matter what. Keeping a tiny human alive is no small feat, and it takes a toll both mentally and physically. Prioritize your well-being because it benefits you and your little one.
And about that elimination communication stuff? Just let it go; it’s not for you.
With love,
Your Future Self
In summary, this letter serves as a heartfelt reminder to embrace the postpartum journey, acknowledge the challenges, and prioritize self-care while celebrating the joys of motherhood. Remember, you are doing your best, and that’s more than enough.