By: Jenna Lewis
Originally Published: Jan. 22, 2023
As a parent, I’m often swept up in the whirlwind of daily tasks and responsibilities. Last year, I encountered significant challenges that prompted me to reevaluate my priorities and make crucial adjustments in my life. Like many parents, I frequently encourage my children to find their own activities so that I can check off my to-do list. Time slips away as I juggle various tasks while they engage in their own imaginative play.
I take pride in their ability to be resourceful and find joy in simple activities without needing extravagant toys or experiences. It’s heartening to see them self-sufficient and capable of problem-solving. However, what I regret is the tendency to rush off, sending them on their way without fully being present.
Recently, I’ve been working on changing this habit. Here’s my confession: it’s not easy! I’m someone who typically schedules every moment for maximum productivity, even when I know it’s unrealistic. But shifting this mindset has been surprisingly rewarding for both me and my children.
What Have I Started Doing More Of?
I linger. Instead of racing to complete my tasks, I take the time to observe my children as they choose their activities and just stay with them. Their initial reactions often include confusion, as they ask, “Aren’t you busy?” or “Why are you still here?” But I believe our children need our genuine presence—not in a hovering, overbearing way, but as an acknowledgment that I cherish our time together.
When I linger, even if it’s just for a brief ten minutes, it becomes a gift not only to them but also to myself. It allows me to be emotionally and physically available without the burden of multitasking. I put aside my list, clear my hands of distractions, and simply enjoy the moment. In those times, I receive knowing glances from my older child and playful interactions with my younger one, who often brings me toys with a smile before returning to play.
Children’s eyes sparkle with curiosity, and their unique quirks change so quickly. I find joy in these fleeting moments, choosing to savor them instead of rushing off to tackle more pressing tasks.
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Summary
This article reflects on the importance of being present in our children’s lives, emphasizing the value of simply lingering while they engage in play. By stepping away from the constant hustle and embracing moments of connection, we not only enrich their experiences but also nurture our own well-being as parents.