Life can be undeniably challenging at times, a sentiment that resonates universally.
“Isn’t life tough sometimes?” my friend Rachel texted me recently.
“Absolutely,” I replied.
We were trying to coordinate a get-together for the upcoming weekend, but the demands of children’s activities, travel, and various commitments kept getting in the way. I miss Rachel, and I know she misses me too. It’s disappointing when life gets in the way.
This morning, I was greeted by a leaking sink in the bathroom. The shower door had come off its hinges, and one of my dogs had left a mess all over my son’s piano book. The other dog, or perhaps the same one, had an accident all over the living room, dining room, kitchen, and family room. It was a chaotic morning filled with hasty school drop-offs and rushed goodbyes. I spent most of the day battling the urge to cry, not really understanding why. Some days just feel overwhelming.
“Parenting is tough,” my friend Kim messaged me later. “I feel like I’ve jumped off a parenting cliff without a safety net.”
“That’s how I feel most days,” I responded. The endless doubts and questions can be exhausting. Are my kids getting enough sleep? Are we reading together enough? At what age is it too old for a favorite blanket or thumb-sucking? Should I allow my son to play football? Are they involved in too many activities? With each new stage, I feel like I’m free-falling into uncertainty. Most days, I’m convinced I’m failing in some regard. Parenting really is hard.
Relationships, whether they be friendships, romantic partnerships, or work-related, can also be challenging. It’s a universal truth: sometimes life is just hard. Acknowledging this is not always comfortable. Society tends to prefer narratives where we triumph over adversity, discussing struggles only after we’ve emerged victorious. We love to share the “Hallelujah!” moments when we’ve found our way back to the light after being lost.
But what about those times when we’re still in the thick of it? When the weight of our struggles feels too heavy to bear? When we’re stumbling through the darkness, feeling lost? Where are the “me too” moments in those times?
During difficult periods, it’s easy to convince ourselves that we’re alone in our struggles, that no one else could possibly understand. Yet, some of life’s most meaningful experiences, like parenting, marriage, and friendships, come with their own set of challenges. Even the act of simply being an adult can feel brutally difficult at times.
The reality is that many beautiful aspects of life carry a certain grit. Acknowledging the hard parts doesn’t diminish their significance; rather, it adds depth to our experiences. It’s okay to admit that life can feel overwhelmingly tough. I am constantly reminded of the richness and beauty of life, even on those not-so-great days. I’m grateful for my kids, even when parenting feels like navigating a minefield. I appreciate my husband, family, and friends, even when life’s busyness gets in the way of expressing our love.
Tonight, Rachel and I were discussing the possibility of getting together. Living far apart and juggling our hectic schedules makes it challenging. We both agreed that, yes, life can be pretty tough at times, and it’s not always easy to admit that while we’re in the midst of it. We even talked about planning a girls’ weekend soon.
“Noodle salad!” I texted her, referencing a scene from the movie As Good as It Gets. In it, Jack Nicholson’s character comments on how some have beautiful stories filled with good times, but not everyone does. We watched that movie nearly 20 years ago at my grandparents’ lake house, where we shared good times, laughter, and of course, noodle salad.
The truth remains: sometimes life is hard, and other times it’s filled with joy. Often, it’s a mixture of both, because the things that matter most in life are rarely easy. Perhaps the key lies in finding ways to create joy even amidst the chaos. Maybe it means enjoying noodle salad, even if it’s not perfect, while we sip wine and share our struggles with a friend.
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In summary, life is filled with ups and downs, and it’s essential to recognize and embrace both the hardships and the good times. By sharing our struggles and joys, we create a community that supports one another through life’s challenges.