It’s no secret that women enjoy sharing secrets. We chat during Girls’ Nights, in carpool lines, and vent to our close friends about everything from our husbands’ quirks to our kids’ mischief. Often, we are more candid with our female friends than we are with our partners. However, there’s a subject that remains largely unspoken, even among the closest pals: anal sex.
When the topic arises, women often lower their voices and glance around nervously, hoping the discussion will quickly dissipate. It’s a subject that elicits giggles and a flurry of activity as someone attempts to change the topic when a tipsy friend brings it up humorously. Recently, an article in Teen Vogue sparked a significant reaction, highlighting the need for more open discussions about this intimate act.
So let’s be bold and delve into this, ladies. Recent statistics from the Centers for Disease Control indicate that 36% of women ages 18-44 are exploring anal sex. In a group of 10 moms at the PTA, we’re talking about 4 who have tried this. If you’re one of those women, it’s essential to know there’s nothing strange or dirty about what brings you pleasure. Engaging in anal play or using toys for stimulation is completely normal. Kudos to you for being open to sexual exploration and understanding your own desires.
If anal sex isn’t your thing, that’s perfectly fine too. In fact, around 60% of women don’t include it in their sexual experiences. But many women have questions about anal play, whether they’re curious or considering trying it. Unfortunately, most feel uncomfortable discussing it with their friends, fearing the conversation might turn awkward.
So where do you turn for answers?
Fear not, as I have done my research on the most common questions surrounding anal sex. Here are some key points to consider:
- Pleasure Potential: For many, anal sex can be incredibly pleasurable. The anus is rich in nerve endings, making stimulation enjoyable. Think of it this way: the satisfaction you might feel from a bowel movement is similar to the sensation during anal play.
- Lube is Essential: The anus does not self-lubricate like the vagina. You’ll need to find a lubricant that works for you, as it’s a crucial part of anal play. Don’t skimp on the lube – use plenty!
- Start Small: Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither should your anal experiences be rushed. Begin with a finger or a small toy and gradually work your way up. This ensures comfort and reduces the risk of tearing, as the anal tissues are delicate.
- Go Slow: Patience is key. Your partner should take their time, easing in slowly to ensure comfort. There’s no rush, so go at a pace that feels right for both of you.
- Communication is Vital: Discuss your feelings and expectations about anal sex before you engage in it. Open communication will help both partners feel more comfortable and make the experience enjoyable.
- Accidents Happen: It’s important to remember that the anus is not a sterile environment. Some messiness may occur, but don’t let that deter you. With relaxation and preparation, you can enjoy anal play without concern.
While anal sex may not be for everyone, it can be a fulfilling part of a woman’s sexual life. It’s time we stop giggling and treating this subject as taboo. There’s no shame in finding joy in your sexual experiences. As George Michael famously said, sex is natural and fun, and if that includes anal play for you, embrace it!
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In summary, it’s time to normalize conversations about anal sex and celebrate the diverse ways we experience intimacy. Let’s support each other in our sexual journeys without judgment or shame.