As a parent, I frequently capture moments of my children’s lives. In today’s digital age, I also share many of those moments on social media. As a parenting blogger, I likely post more photos than the average parent. Most of my audience consists of strangers, but should I reconsider my approach?
A recent article on NPR highlighted the potential risks of “sharenting”—the act of sharing content about your children online—and how kids are increasingly expressing their preferences regarding their online presence. At a gathering of the American Academy of Pediatrics, Dr. Ellen Thompson, a law professor, and Dr. Samira Jones, a pediatric specialist, discussed a study in which 249 parent-child pairs were surveyed about “family technology rules.” Interestingly, while parents felt comfortable with their sharing habits, the children voiced a desire for more privacy. Dr. Jones noted, “The kids wanted more control over what their parents posted about them.”
Initially, this reaction may seem unreasonable. As an adult with a 6-year-old and an infant, I feel I have more life experience than they do, so why should I let them dictate my online behavior? I have enough on my plate managing the chaos they create without relinquishing control over my social media choices! Yet, perhaps these children are onto something. They are being raised in a world where privacy is rapidly diminishing, and it won’t be long before they possess a better understanding of the implications of sharing personal information online than we do. They will navigate this digital landscape naturally, but they still need our guidance.
Every parent knows that teaching is more effective when paired with leading by example. Thus, it is crucial for us to evaluate what we share, considering the risks of identity theft, bullying, and even phenomena like “digital kidnapping,” where malicious individuals pretend your child is theirs. While I enjoy documenting and sharing my children’s adorable antics, I also recognize the importance of safeguarding their well-being. I believe some level of embarrassment can be beneficial for children, especially as they enter their teenage years; however, not everything needs to be broadcast online. A little discretion goes a long way.
When it comes to sharing their stories and images, I don’t feel overly concerned. Constantly worrying about potential pitfalls can overshadow the joy of parenting. I don’t view most of my “sharenting” as an invasion of privacy, but I acknowledge that my children’s feelings matter. If, as they grow older, they express discomfort about sharing specific photos or stories, I will respect their wishes.
Of course, a little behind-the-scenes sharing might happen—after all, a parent needs some fun content for their blog! For more on navigating parenthood with humor and authenticity, check out our related post on couples’ fertility journeys.
In sum, while sharing aspects of our children’s lives online can spark debate, it’s essential to strike a balance between documenting precious moments and respecting their privacy. As they grow, I’ll adapt to their preferences and continue to prioritize their well-being.