When my partner Jamie and I purchased our first house, we were thrilled at the prospect of experiencing Halloween in a neighborhood filled with trick-or-treaters. After years in a cramped apartment, we could finally enjoy the sight of little monsters and princesses roaming the streets.
On Halloween morning that first year, I made sure to stock up on plenty of the “good” candy, brew some warm apple cider, and decorate our porch with festive Halloween décor. While we didn’t have children at the time, I was eager to join in the evening’s festivities.
However, Jamie, with his quirky sense of humor, decided it would be amusing to greet trick-or-treaters while wearing an albino ape mask. As the night progressed, he noticed groups of older kids arriving and would burst through the door, mask on, yelling “Boo!” The teens found it hilarious, so Jamie took it even further, running out with flailing arms and yelling at them. The older kids screamed with laughter.
Unfortunately, he didn’t see the tiny 2-year-old dressed as Winnie the Pooh, who was also coming up our walkway. The little one screamed—not in delight, but out of sheer terror. Consequently, Winnie’s mother had quite a few choice words for Jamie about his idea of humor. The albino mask has since vanished.
Now that I have kids, I fully grasp how inconsiderate Jamie’s Halloween antics were. The incident reminded me of how important it is to be sensitive toward the little ones who knock on our door on Halloween night.
Tips for a Kinder Halloween
- Acknowledge that Halloween can be frightening for young children. While you might view your gruesome scarecrow as the epitome of Halloween spirit, many kids see it as a source of nightmares. Consider removing overly graphic decorations to create a welcoming atmosphere for the littlest trick-or-treaters.
- Don’t criticize kids who forget to say ‘thank you’. Not every child can verbalize their gratitude for various reasons. Nonverbal kids might struggle to express themselves, while shy ones may feel too intimidated to speak without their parents nearby. Making remarks about a child’s manners is unhelpful; unless it’s your own child being rude, keep your comments to yourself.
- Avoid teasing children about their costumes. Halloween is a chance for kids to showcase their creativity. If a child approaches you in a costume you don’t recognize, try saying, “Tell me about your costume!” or “That headband is fantastic!” Kids already face many challenges in feeling comfortable with themselves, and they don’t need an adult mocking their creativity.
- Be mindful of allergies. Kids can have a range of allergies, and it’s essential for them to have a safe Halloween. You can help by placing a teal pumpkin on your porch to indicate you have non-food treats available, or by offering non-food items to every child who visits. Parents of children with allergies will appreciate your thoughtfulness.
- Skip the clown costume. Many children (and adults!) have a fear of clowns, and given the current climate surrounding them, donning a clown outfit might not be the best idea. For the sake of everyone’s peace of mind, it’s best to avoid the oversized shoes and white face paint.
Halloween can be an overwhelming experience for kids, and it often feels like the focus has shifted to adult-themed celebrations. While I enjoy attending costume parties, I always remember that Halloween is primarily about letting kids have fun and express their creativity. When I answer the door on Halloween night, I strive to ensure it’s a positive experience for every little ghost and goblin. After all, being the adult who frightened a toddler dressed as Winnie the Pooh is not something to take lightly.
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Summary
This article offers essential tips for adults to ensure a positive Halloween experience for young trick-or-treaters. It emphasizes the importance of being sensitive to children’s fears, avoiding negative comments about their costumes, and being aware of allergies. The narrative is woven around a humorous personal anecdote that highlights the need for kindness during this festive time.