For months, I’ve wanted to pen this post. Yet each time, I hesitated, searching for the right words. However, my partner and I have found a place of understanding, and I feel compelled to share our experience to encourage a fresh outlook and perhaps bring hope to others facing similar challenges. With a three-month-old baby, time is a rare commodity between diaper changes, feedings, and work commitments.
When our son, Max, was born in August, we were informed by the doctors of a potential complication — as if the birth process hadn’t been eventful enough. After 36 hours of induced labor, a C-section was necessary due to the umbilical cord being wrapped around his neck twice. Following his birth, Max developed a respiratory infection, resulting in a five-day NICU stay. While addressing his respiratory issues, the doctors discovered irregularities in his bone structure.
My family has always been known for having larger heads, but Max’s was exceptionally large, measuring off the charts. X-rays taken to assess his chest revealed that his arm and leg bones, pelvic bone, and joint connections were consistent with a diagnosis of achondroplasia, which was later confirmed through a genetic blood test.
What is Achondroplasia?
I asked myself the same question. After some research and conversations with wonderful NICU pediatricians and nurses, we learned that achondroplasia is the most prevalent form of dwarfism.
Dwarfism. My mind raced. Our pregnancy had been smooth sailing, with all tests and imaging returning positive results. Did we pass down some genetic anomaly? Was there something we could have done differently? Would this impact Max’s quality of life?
The answer is no, no, and no. Here are some important facts about achondroplasia:
- It occurs in approximately 1 in 25,000 births, often resulting from a spontaneous mutation of the FGFR3 gene during conception. Most parents of children with dwarfism, like us, are of average height.
- Classified as a rare condition, achondroplasia is a form of skeletal dysplasia, but we don’t view it as a “disease.” In fact, there are over 300 types of dwarfism, affecting an estimated 651,700 people worldwide, with Max’s type being the most common.
- Physically, achondroplasia is characterized by shortened upper arms and thighs, a prominent head, a flattened nasal bridge, and shorter stature (the average height for males with this condition is 4 feet 4 inches).
- Think of plant growth: if you overwater a plant, it won’t thrive. The FGFR3 mutation essentially restricts Max’s long bones from growing normally.
In those initial weeks, I experienced a whirlwind of emotions, grappling with questions about why this happened to us, how we were chosen from 1 in 25,000, and reconciling my vision of fatherhood with this new reality. But after some deep breaths and tremendous support from family and friends, I realized that we were indeed chosen for a reason. This was no accident; we are fortunate to have an incredible son. Max is a wonderful little boy who has opened up a world of resources for us, connecting us with other families who have children with achondroplasia and organizations like Little People of America.
Research indicates that children with achondroplasia tend to be highly motivated, hardworking, goal-oriented, and natural problem solvers. That sounds a lot like my partner, Jamie.
What Does “Normal” Really Mean?
Height is just one aspect of life, much like socio-economic status, skin color, or eye color — all merely statistics and percentages, not definitions of normalcy. Max is a typical kid who will engage in everyday activities and attend school just like his peers. He has his own set of normal newborn moments, complete with cries that could shatter the space-time continuum.
Yes, Max has dwarfism, but it will not define him. He may be small, but I believe he will leave a significant impact on those around him. He has already blessed Jamie and me in ways we never imagined, strengthening our family bonds, inspiring encouraging words from friends, and creating a protective atmosphere during these challenging months. He has instilled in us a profound love and appreciation that reshapes our priorities.
Our hope is that those in our lives and anyone reading this will take the time to learn about this condition. We want to foster open conversations and awareness, encouraging people to ask questions and dispelling any awkwardness surrounding the topic.
Indeed, Max has dwarfism. Yes, he’s small. But above all, he is Max — perfectly and intentionally created. He is destined to be an extraordinary little guy, a little legend.
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Summary
Alex Thompson shares the journey of raising their son, Max, who was diagnosed with achondroplasia, the most common form of dwarfism. Despite initial fears and uncertainties, Alex and Jamie embrace their son’s uniqueness, highlighting that dwarfism will not define him. They encourage open discussions about the condition, stressing that Max is perfectly made and destined for greatness.