Parenting
From a young age, I’ve dreamed of becoming a mother. I was that child who cared meticulously for her dolls, believing I had a grasp on parenting. However, the reality of caring for a real baby turned out to be a far cry from those carefree days of play.
Back then, I thought being a good mom meant holding my dolls, showering them with affection, and putting them down whenever I pleased. I could easily swoop in and out of playtime in my toy kitchen while my dolls slept soundly. But when my first child arrived, I quickly realized how naive my expectations had been.
I adored snuggling, nursing, and tending to my newborn, yet I was still a person with needs of my own. Unfortunately, my little one had other ideas. He was determined to be held at all times, effectively becoming my little Velcro baby.
We had a cozy bassinet, a baby swing, and a bouncy seat—a well-stocked arsenal of baby gear. But when my son finally fell asleep nursing on my chest, the moment I attempted to lay him down, his eyes shot open as if to say, “What are you thinking?”
With a mix of stubbornness and desperation, I tried everything to encourage him to be okay without me. Swaddling blankets? Rejected. A bassinet with my scent? Nope. White noise and soothing music? Only occasionally effective. Eventually, I surrendered. When my partner was available, he held the baby; when alone, I held him too. To my surprise, this arrangement was far from tragic. Once I stopped forcing my baby to be independent, we both found more joy in our new routine.
I soon learned about the “fourth trimester,” a concept that explains how human babies are born before they are developmentally ready, needing extra time close to their parents. Unlike many mammals that can walk shortly after birth, human infants are essentially helpless and require close physical contact.
Through a lot of trial and error, I discovered babywearing, which allowed me to keep my hands free while bonding with my child. I became adept at multitasking, often managing to do chores one-handed. Who knew I had such a hidden talent?
Over the years, as I expanded my knowledge and became a breastfeeding counselor and lactation consultant, I encountered many parents with similar struggles. The most common inquiry? “Why does my baby cry every time I try to put him down?” Many parents worry they are doing something wrong, but the truth is, newborns are simply demanding creatures. They are full of emotions, opinions, and, let’s face it, they have no qualms about expressing them.
I empathize with the challenges of having a clingy baby, especially a Velcro baby like mine. But take heart; this phase does pass. By around four to five months, most babies become more independent, though some take longer. That’s perfectly fine.
“It’s okay. It’s normal. You’re doing a great job.” Those were the affirmations I needed during those exhausting days. So, if you find yourself in a similar situation, know that you’re not alone, and you’ll get through it too.
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Summary:
Navigating the challenges of parenting a clingy baby can be overwhelming, but knowing that it’s a common experience can provide reassurance. Embracing babywearing and understanding the fourth trimester can help ease the struggle. Remember, it’s perfectly normal for your baby to want to be held constantly.