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11 Ways To Annoy A Single Mom
by Alex Reynolds
Updated: November 10, 2017
Originally Published: Aug. 1, 2016
The life of a single mom is a challenging yet heroic journey that often goes unrecognized. While we may all acknowledge her role, many folks fail to appreciate the unique hurdles of single parenting. Regardless of your family structure, parenting is tough, but some phrases can particularly irritate single moms like myself.
- Bring Your Baby. It’ll Be Fun!
Fun for whom? I can assure you that chasing after my child while you sip wine and nibble on hors d’oeuvres isn’t my idea of a good time. I appreciate your effort to include my child, but adult conversations are nearly impossible with a wriggly baby in tow. Just because other couples have child care arrangements doesn’t mean I do. I’d rather stay home. - I Don’t Know How You Do It.
Honestly, neither do I. But if you’re really curious, how about offering actual help—like babysitting for a bit so I can take a breather? The empty admiration doesn’t cut it. I’m fully aware of my situation every second of every day. What I need is a chance to recharge, not just compliments. - Have You Seen This Movie?
Nope! I haven’t set foot in a theater in ages (happy birthday to my son!). Sure, I can get a babysitter, but that’s usually reserved for essential errands. A fun night out? Not happening anytime soon. - My Partner is the Worst!
Are you really complaining about your partner to me? Unless he’s the absolute worst—like neglecting family duties or being unfaithful—I’m not interested in your grievances. I haven’t had the luxury of a private bathroom in two years! - Grocery Shopping with the Kids is a Nightmare!
I know it is, because that’s my everyday reality. If your husband has to work late and you have to bring Timmy with you, welcome to my world. I don’t have the option to leave my kid at home. - What’s Your Parenting Philosophy?
Survival. Honestly, my approach is all about making it through the day. If I could indulge in all those parenting trends, I would, but for now, ensuring my child’s basic needs are met is my priority. - There’s a Great Mommy and Me Group Meeting!
Thanks for the tip, but that meeting is on a Tuesday at 10 a.m., and I’m working to pay the bills. Activities like those rarely accommodate the schedules of single moms. - You Must Have Help from [insert assumption].
Actually, I don’t. Would you like to pitch in? Oh wait, I think we already discussed that. While the saying goes that “it takes a village,” for many single moms, that village seems to vanish once the baby arrives. - It Was a Couples Thing.
I love when friends use this as an excuse for not inviting me somewhere. I watch them closely to see if they pity me, feel smug about their relationship status, or avoid eye contact because they’re uncomfortable having a single mom around. - Don’t Worry. Mr. Right Will Come Along.
Oh really? I’ll just sit here and prepare for when he arrives? Being a single mom was a choice I made, and it’s not something that just happens to women. My child has a father, even if he’s not in the picture. I am not waiting around for a new partner. - I Am So Tired!
Are you? Not every single mom finds the same phrases frustrating. At the end of the day, we’re all looking for a little empathy and help in maintaining our sanity.
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In summary, navigating single motherhood comes with its own set of challenges, and certain comments can be particularly grating. While every mom’s experience is unique, a little understanding and support can go a long way.