Pregnancy can be a challenging journey, especially for those who suffer from hyperemesis gravidarum (HG), a severe form of morning sickness that affects approximately 3% of pregnant women. Unlike typical morning sickness, HG is a debilitating condition that can last for extended periods, making daily life a struggle. I experienced HG during all four of my pregnancies, each time more intense than the last, and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.
Unfortunately, many people lack a proper understanding of HG, often dismissing it as regular morning sickness. When Kate Middleton, the Duchess of Cambridge, was hospitalized due to HG, it brought some attention to the condition, but there are still plenty of uninformed comments that can leave a pregnant woman feeling isolated. Here are ten things to avoid saying to someone dealing with severe morning sickness:
- “Just eat crackers before getting out of bed.”
As if I hadn’t thought of that! If only I had the energy or appetite to even consider it. - “Being sick means the baby is healthy.”
Unfortunately, that’s not true. My constant nausea doesn’t guarantee a healthy baby; it just means I’m feeling awful. - “If you’re really sick, it’s a girl!”
I had HG four times and welcomed four boys, so this myth doesn’t hold water. - “You’ll forget this once the baby arrives!”
There might be some truth here, but I made sure to document my struggles. I had my husband snap a photo of me pushing around my IV pole—just a reminder for when I might think about having another baby. - “You can’t lose weight while pregnant and have a healthy baby.”
Actually, it is possible. I’ve experienced rapid weight changes during those rare moments when I could eat. - “If you don’t eat, the baby won’t grow.”
The human body is remarkably resilient and can sustain a baby even when the mother is barely able to eat. - “It never lasts the entire pregnancy.”
Believe me, it can and does. Puking at nine months is no picnic. - “That medication isn’t good for you or the baby.”
Modern medicine provides solutions, and I’ve delivered perfectly healthy boys while managing my symptoms with prescribed medication. - “Are you enjoying your pregnancy?”
Enjoying might not be the right word for a time filled with sickness, fatigue, and depression while trying to care for myself and my other children.
So, what should you say to someone suffering from severe morning sickness? Simply ask, “How can I help?” and be ready to assist in whatever way she needs. Whether it’s picking up various sports drinks or attempting different recipes until she can find something palatable, your support can make a significant difference. Remember, this phase won’t last forever, and the end will bring the joy of meeting her new baby.
For further insights on the topic of pregnancy and mental health, check out this article on the mental health crisis among mothers, which provides valuable information. If you’re interested in home insemination, you can explore more about it in our post about the Cryobaby home intracervical insemination syringe kit. For a deeper understanding of genetics and pregnancy, refer to this excellent resource on the Genetics and IVF Institute.
In summary, being sensitive and supportive instead of offering unsolicited advice can help ease the burden of someone experiencing severe morning sickness. A simple offer of assistance can go a long way.