Dear Sweetheart,
I notice you nestled comfortably between your brothers, navigating life in your unique way. While you may not partake in all the activities your older sibling enjoys, your acceptance of this situation warms my heart. There’s something delightful about the sly smile you wear when he finds himself in a bit of trouble—it’s as if you’re taking mental notes on what to avoid.
You’re not one to demand attention, likely because I’ve often been preoccupied with managing the whirlwind that is parenting two little ones at once. Your older brother’s boundless energy kept me on my toes, and I was caught up in the chaos of potty training and sibling dynamics. Yet, I can see how you relish the freedom that comes with this arrangement. You thrive in your own imaginative world, a place where you can explore without needing constant oversight.
I understand that life can feel unfair at times. Still, you manage to embrace every moment, gracefully balancing the roles of both big sister and little sister. You are surrounded by two brothers who adore you deeply, even if they don’t always express it. The moments we carve out together are special, especially since you didn’t get the one-on-one time with me that your older brother enjoyed, nor did you have the same experience after your younger brother arrived. You cherish these moments, and it shows.
I know it was difficult for you when I had to stop carrying you because a new baby arrived just as you were learning to walk. But what I observed was remarkable: instead of feeling defeated, you became determined. You took my hand and, before long, you were walking independently. You were eager to help with your baby brother, showing a level of maturity that took my breath away.
Your strength is admirable. You possess resilience, nurturing instincts, and an understanding that sometimes “no” means “not yet.” This has cultivated patience and bravery within you. You strive for what you want and appreciate the journey it takes to get there. Your capacity for love is immense, and you share it freely.
You have transformed my life in ways I never anticipated. Before you, I was unsure if I could love another child as intensely as I loved your older brother. Yet, you taught me that my heart had the capacity to grow beyond what I thought possible. You gave me the confidence to embrace motherhood for a larger family, proving that I could share my love and energy among all my children. You helped me realize that I could handle the challenge of a third child because you filled my life with unimaginable joy.
You are a true treasure in our family. While some may argue that middle children have it tough, I sense that you are surprisingly content with your place. The blend of siblings around you seems to suit you just fine. This may shift in the future, especially as your brother gains more independence, but for now, my dear, continue to embody determination, patience, and resilience. Keep sharing your wonderful gifts, for even in the midst of our bustling family, they are always appreciated.