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The Joyously Challenging Newborn Stage
by Emily Grant
Updated: June 18, 2016
Originally Published: June 18, 2016
When I was expecting my first child, a colleague mentioned that the initial weeks with a newborn could be some of the toughest times in parenting. I dismissed his warnings, thinking that the newborn phase would be a breeze—after all, they only eat and sleep, right? I felt convinced it would be the highlight of my parenting journey.
Then I welcomed my firstborn into the world, and it quickly became clear that this phase was not as simple as I had anticipated.
As I prepared for my second pregnancy, I felt excited to snuggle another little one. Yet, I also experienced a sense of dread about returning to the early days—the endless cycle of nursing, the witching hour, and the constant laundry. Caring for a newborn is undeniably hard work.
It’s funny how I can simultaneously adore and be overwhelmed by this stage. I am truly grateful for my healthy children, but that doesn’t imply that every moment is easy.
Now, let’s delve into the more challenging aspects of having a newborn:
Those “Smiles” Aren’t for You
Despite your efforts to cuddle and talk to them, those adorable little grins are likely due to a gas bubble rather than any recognition of your affection. As a parent, it’s natural to want to feel that love returned, especially from your tiny, adorable newborn.
The Demands of Newborns
Newborns can be incredibly demanding. They often cluster feed, fuss when they can’t get that last burp out, and cry for reasons that remain a mystery. This can drive anyone to the brink of madness.
Nursing Challenges
The first few weeks of breastfeeding can be particularly tough. Your milk supply is still adjusting, leaving you with an uncomfortable pins-and-needles sensation. Engorgement and leaks become constant companions. You might feel like you’re permanently connected to this little human who needs to nurse constantly.
Nighttime Isolation
Those late-night feedings can feel quite lonely. While the world outside sleeps, you find yourself nursing, burping, and changing diapers at 2:45 a.m. It’s hard not to resent the peaceful slumber of others while you endure this exhausting routine.
Phantom Cries
Phantom baby cries are a reality; they will follow you everywhere, even interrupting your rare moments of self-care, like taking a shower. You may burst out, only to find your baby peacefully sleeping, while your partner gives you a look that says you’ve truly lost your mind.
Fragile and Sensitive Newborns
Newborns are delicate. Their immune systems are still developing, making them vulnerable to overstimulation from loud noises and strong scents. This limitation can keep you homebound, longing for a simple outing. By the end of the day, I often feel like I’m trapped in a sauna, desperate to escape.
Ten years ago, my idea of a fun night out might have been dancing at a club. Now, it’s more about hitting Target or browsing Whole Foods. #momlife
Now, let’s explore the delightful aspects of the newborn stage:
The Irresistible Newborn Scent
That sweet, intoxicating scent of a newborn is something every parent would pay to bottle and keep forever. Words fail to capture its magic, but it’s undoubtedly one of the most cherished aspects of having a baby.
Adorable Noises and Expressions
Newborns make the cutest sounds while they sleep—grunts, squeaks, and even little laughs. Their facial expressions are equally endearing, from the famous duck lips to the hilarious “pooping” faces. I have countless photos capturing these moments with my daughters.
Embracing the “Newborn Grace Period”
Newborns sleep a lot, only able to handle an hour or two of wakefulness. I like to call this the “newborn grace period,” which allows moms to gradually adjust to the new routine—time to shower, nap, or tidy up!
Low Entertainment Needs
Unlike older children who constantly demand attention, newborns require just food, cuddles, and sleep. This simplicity makes it easier to accomplish tasks and carve out a moment for yourself.
Tiny and Cuddly
There’s nothing quite like holding a tiny newborn. They curl up into a little ball of warmth, and their little limbs fit snugly in your hands. It’s an experience like no other.
I wouldn’t trade this phase for anything. In a few short months, when my newborn is no longer so new, I know I’ll miss these moments—both the joyful and the chaotic.
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