If you happen to cross paths with my kids and feel inclined to smile, wave, or even strike up a conversation with them, I want to take a moment to express my gratitude. Thank you for not viewing us as mere “strangers.” I don’t see you that way either, and it’s important to me that my children learn to view the world through the same lens of community and connection.
When you greet us, it serves as a gentle reminder that my little one, who is gleefully splashing through a mud puddle with only one shoe on, is not a source of stress, but rather a joy. Your friendly interactions with them help reinforce a sense of belonging and warmth in the world around us.
I delight in the moments when my kids return your waves or when my 4-year-old daughter engages in lively chats with other parents, caregivers, and even the couple trying to catch some rest in the shade. I apologize for the time my daughter interrupted your nap with her carrot stick offering. Your patience is appreciated as I manage my son, who is often on the move, seeking more puddles to splash in.
Yes, there are individuals out there who pose a risk. It’s a reality I cannot ignore. That’s why, for now, my kids, ages 4 and 2, will remain under close supervision. During these formative years, I’m focused on teaching them to trust their instincts, to avoid anyone who makes them uncomfortable, and to never take anything from strangers or go anywhere with them. For the moment, I’m right there, keeping a watchful eye.
But I also want to instill in them the value of connection. I want them to understand that they deserve respect and a basic level of trust unless proven otherwise. It’s crucial for them to learn to discern between genuine discomfort and unfounded mistrust, a skill I continue to navigate myself.
While I am understandably concerned about the rare instances of child abduction, I firmly believe that retreating into a shell of fear is not the solution. Such behavior fosters division and hostility in our communities. I worry about the implications of such fear, as it can lead to incidents like a mother scolding another parent over the use of food stamps in a grocery store, which only serves to further isolate us.
Fortunately, most people are kind. Crime statistics indicate that children are safer now than they have been in decades. My experience suggests that treating others with trust and respect yields better outcomes than initial suspicion.
Thus, I won’t teach my children to approach every unfamiliar person with fear because, let’s face it, most individuals they encounter are simply other people, not threats. They may occasionally meet someone who raises their instincts, and that’s valid, but I want them to also learn to be assertive and self-reliant individuals.
In essence, I aim to cultivate a mindset in my children that avoids default suspicion. It’s vital to recognize that fear can lead to anger, and anger can breed hatred. This cycle is something I want them to understand and resist.
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In summary, fostering open communication with strangers can enrich my children’s lives. While I remain vigilant about their safety, I believe in teaching them to connect with others, reinforcing a culture of trust and community.