In a staggering trend, adults are residing with their parents at the highest rates seen in over a century. While it’s often amusing when our children joke about living with us “forever,” we secretly fantasize about transforming their rooms into personal spaces—be it a workout studio, sewing area, or a lavish closet. Unfortunately, the reality is that a growing number of young adults are still calling their parents’ homes their own even after crossing the threshold of 18.
America, can we please get our act together so our kids can move out before they hit 30?
Consider this eye-opening statistic from a Pew Research Center analysis: in 2014, for the first time in 130 years, adults aged 18 to 34 were more likely to reside with their parents than with a spouse or partner. Just think about it—130 years ago, women were expected to stay at home under strict supervision until they found a suitable match. It’s ironic that we’re making strides in so many areas, yet this one feels like a regression.
A quick search will reveal various factors contributing to this trend, the majority of which are financial. Many young adults are still grappling with student loan debt, and the rising costs of college make it even more burdensome. Living at home allows them to save money while they work on paying off those loans. Additionally, the pursuit of advanced degrees is on the rise, which also leads to extended periods of living rent-free.
Although unemployment rates have improved, many young adults are still opting to stay at home longer than previous generations. High rents in urban areas often make it cheaper to own a home than to rent, further complicating the situation.
However, the most significant reason behind this trend is the shifting average age of marriage—now around 27 for women and nearly 30 for men. Pew notes that the decline in young Americans settling down before age 35 is a key factor in why more adults are living with their parents.
So, parents, it’s time to take action if we want our homes back before our kids are graying alongside us. We might need to channel our inner matchmaker to help them launch into the world much sooner. I mean, my personal workout room isn’t going to create itself, right?
While it’s lovely to have our children at home—especially when they contribute to household expenses—it can become overwhelming when too many adults share the same space. Take my friend Sarah, for example; she had her brother living with her parents until he was nearly 27. He longed for independence, but his late-night karaoke sessions and knack for devouring groceries made cohabitation less than ideal. It’s simply the natural order of life—children grow up and need to spread their wings.
So, to our beloved kids, we’re here to support you, but maybe we can all agree that you don’t need to stay until your early 30s? We love you dearly, but we’d like our lives back at some point!
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Summary
The rising trend of young adults living at home is attributed to financial burdens and a delay in marriage. While parents are supportive, the desire for personal space and independence remains strong. It’s essential for families to find a balance that allows children to thrive independently while still enjoying familial support.